How to become a swinger? The emergence of the movement, founders, sexual relations, advice and recommendations

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Almost every adult has heard of swing at least once in their life when there are more than two people in bed. However, in the classical sense, this is an exchange of partners between two married couples. How to become a swinger, where to find partners and is it considered cheating? Let's reveal an intimate interesting topic.

Swing is…

New forms of sexuality are borrowed from other cultures and spread widely. There is no active swing movement in Russia today, but official statistics are not an indicator. On dating sites, a section called “Couple looking for a couple” has long appeared. It is not difficult to guess what is at stake.

The concept of "swinger" is borrowed from the jazz "swing", which means quickly jumping from one note to another. In the case of swing, from one partner to another.

How do you become a swinger? They say that love lives for three years. What about passion? Often subsides in the first year of marriage. What to do?

Many fold their wings and put up with the samelife, someone is looking for variety on the side, and still others plunge headlong into swing, motivating them to save a sinking family boat.

There is always a male impulse in a man. Fear and competition do not keep pace (! not with time), but with momentum. By nature, people are polygamous. Swing is like a spontaneous search for a new form of family existence.

Swingers are often confused with group sex participants. This opinion is wrong. Swingers are always couples.

Where did swing come from?

Initially, swinging meant the exchange of wives. With increasing popularity, this phenomenon was first noticed in 1950.

Swing was invented by US military pilots during World War II. They had enough finances to support their families close to military bases. The mortality rate was high, and therefore conflicting social relations began to arise among the pilots. An intimate relationship took place between the pilots themselves and between their wives. This trend continued until the end of the Korean War - until 1953.

There is another version: swinging originated in Czechoslovakia during socialism. This phenomenon spread in California by American hippies. The fear of contracting AIDS or HIV has not stopped couples from trying to diversify their relationship.

In the 1960s and 1970s, the notion of the “Swedish family” appeared. Radical youth, as opposed to the traditional idea of a family, staged a "love triangle". Swedish swingers are grouped as either male + male + female or male + female + female.

Mottoswinger communities: "Let's rid the world of AIDS." This is their main principle. Representatives of swinging believe that a partner will not receive sexual satisfaction on the side, but will receive sexual pleasure with another proven couple. The foundation is safe sex.

Today in Russia, swinging is the lot of big cities such as Moscow, St. Petersburg, Nizhny Novgorod. Here, every 20 couples are swingers. One in 12 have tried swinger sex once. According to stubborn statistics, the number of swinger couples is growing at 1% every year. The metropolis is the place where this unusual phenomenon spreads.

Swingers Rules

Due to the nature of the male character, there are unspoken rules in the swinger community.

1. A female swinger has no right to meet alone with someone else's male swinger. The reason is pretty clear: a man is afraid of being compared to someone else, especially when it comes to sex life.
2. Swingers do not become attached to each other: someone else's husband or wife remain strangers. You can only "borrow" another partner in the presence of his half.
3. Swinger game between couples lasts up to 6 months. Often, acquaintance occurs in society, and not through ads. Beaches, parties are typical places for swinger couples to meet.

Despite all the so-called swinger rules, no one is immune from infidelity. In a non-standard situation, feelings sometimes take over. Many couples separate and begin to build relationships with a partner fromswinger movement: it turns out a vicious circle.

Swing is cheating?

According to statistics, about 20% of couples have practiced swing at least once. 40% of free people dreamed of trying to let a secret, like Pandora's box, connection into their lives. In swinger circles, this activity is not considered cheating. Partners know (and more often they see) with whom and what their other half is busy with.

Swing Formats

Swing comes in several interesting forms. So, the main ones are:

• easy swing - physical betrayal is not implied. Only mutual caresses are allowed, satisfying the desire to be with someone else, but not with your partner. It turns out a kind of "underchange";
• soft swing - having sex in close proximity to each other, but not exchanging partners;
• closed swing implies physical intimacy. The couples exchange partners and go to different rooms. Often the closed form of swing is preferred by couples who have a desire to try physical intimacy with someone on the side;
• open form of swing - couples have sex together. Swingers believe that this is how they release their energy.

In a sense, an open form of swing can be called an orgy.

Worth a try?

Why do they become swingers? The main reason is to refresh feelings in family relationships and gain new sexual experience. At the same time, it is assumed that treason does not occur. Because there is no deception of your other half. Physical intimacy happens with the consent of the loved one. Paradoxical?To a certain degree. Stereotyped people will never understand the logic of swingers.

Statistically, almost everyone has an erotic cherished fantasy. The format is: He + She + She.

Some girls give such an extravagant gift to their beloved man. The manifestation of male jealousy is excluded. But the woman's jealousy is more than likely.

Another combination: He + He + She.

Only non-jealous men can agree to such a format. However, it is possible that after the intimate experiment, reproaches and jealousy will begin.

Classic swinger couple+couple.

Both partners are in an equal position.

How to choose the best partners?

If both partners decide to become swingers, then the question arises: "Where to find another couple?" First of all, you need to understand how much you are both ready to experiment intimately. Immediately I want to warn women for whom a partner is valuable. Sexologists give some "advice":

• don't persuade a married couple with whom you are family friends to swing. If someone does not like something - friendship apart. There is a high probability that common acquaintances will recognize. Moreover, it will be difficult to relax with people with whom you have been communicating for a long time, and then you will continue to communicate with friends;
• don't mess with your exes and their new partners. In any case, there willjealousy. It is difficult to look at your partner in the arms of his ex-girlfriend and at the same time understand that they were once connected by more than one spicy experiment.

How to become a swinger with my wife and find partners? There are swing clubs in Europe. They consist of swinger couples who want to find partners. In Russia, such closed clubs appeared relatively recently.

How to become a swinger? Go to a swing party! They take place in various formats. This is where contact information is collected. You can come absolutely anonymously and taste the forbidden fruit.

You will probably never meet your swing partners again. It's like in a train car: we talked and never met again. Anonymity is strictly enforced in these specific clubs.

How to become a swinger yet? Get on your favorite Internet.

There are special dating sites for swingers. There is only one risk: at a meeting you can get something completely different from what you expected. And wide publicity is no exception.

Opinions

Scientists note that polygamous nature remains polygamous. Married long life is impossible without physical adultery. Of course, cheating always involves cheating, at least for a while, because sooner or later everything secret becomes clear.

Swing is a kind of legalized form of betrayal, and honesty remains in a married couple, but natural polygamy does not break.

On the same site (for ethical reasonsname will not be published) people-swingers answer the question "How did we become swingers?" For example, swingers believe that they will soon gain gender equality. They believe that the desires of a partner must be treated with respect and understanding. Swing is a special art, which is given only to those couples who set themselves the goal of building a holistic trusting relationship.

Swingers often share their stories on specialized forums under a general heading called "How my wife and I became swingers." One representative of the Hungarian community says that the path to swinging took him and his wife about five years. Before the wedding, there were guesses that other men could excite the spouse, but something happened that he could not even imagine: the wife was excited by absolutely opposite men. It turns out that the wife had long dreamed of trying swing with another man, but for a long time she was afraid to admit it - she thought she might offend, so she just kept silent. True, after she tried swing with the man of her dreams, her interest subsided, he simply became uninteresting to her. But swing is swing. There is rarely room for experimentation in a one-man marriage, and swing is a springboard for realizing one's sexual fantasies. This is also necessary and important.

Sexologists note: if a married couple was close to divorce, but chose swinging to save their family boat, it will still disperse. And those couples who dreamed of knowing the depth of their relationship and engaged in swinging, found it.