Who chooses whom: a man a woman or a woman a man? How does a man choose his woman?

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Today women are more active and free than they were a few decades ago. Suffragism, feminism, gender equality - all this pushed society to some changes in the education and consciousness of today's youth. Therefore, it can be considered natural that the question arose: “At the moment, who chooses whom: a man a woman or vice versa?” Let's try to understand this problem.

A little bit of history

It's no secret that almost the whole world lived in patriarchal traditions for a long time. And this happened long before the beginning of the current reckoning, and this is a very, very long time ago. Some human genetic information is passed on from generation to generation with the knowledge that men are always the main ones in everything and always: they rule the world, act as heads of families, solve problems that can be called global. A woman always went to a manadvice, solved only with him all important issues, guided by his opinion and thoughts. Often she did only what the man said. The slightest attempts of the fair sex to change this state of affairs were suppressed and punished in every possible way.

Modern realities

Most recently, in the middle of the last century, a new women's movement emerged. The suffragettes decided to give a little more freedom to women. Over time, it grew into a more aggressive and radical trend - feminism - the struggle against men for supremacy. However, this direction also quickly lost its relevance (although the centers of feminism can be observed from time to time even now). At the moment, women have decided to act more reasonably and begin to achieve not yet dominant positions in the “man-woman” struggle, but for a start, at least equality. They called their offspring gender equality, i.e. equality of the sexes. However, not everything is done as quickly as we would like. It is rather difficult all over the world to overthrow the social order (patriarchy), which has existed for many centuries in a row, but it is even more difficult to change the opinion of women themselves. But if in the countries of Europe and America the attitude towards gender equality issues is much easier and calmer (and on both sides), and more and more women occupy leading positions and even take seats in parliament, then the countries of the post-Soviet space are still quite far from this. Here, such innovations are not very welcome, and society is still closed to such changes (includingincluding the female side).

Simple conclusions

Glancing a little into history, it is already possible to draw logical conclusions, answering the question of who chooses whom. At the moment in our country it is still the prerogative of men. Modern girls and women rarely can be the first to meet a man, invite a guy they like to dance or go on a date. However, there is one thing. If a man has to take the first step on his own, a woman can help him a little by suggesting with her behavior or ambiguous hints what is required of him. It turns out that a man actually chooses, but he chooses most often what a woman wants. The ability or even the gift to inspire men with their thoughts and desires - probably, it was for this that women were burned at the stake in the Middle Ages.

Traditions of education

Answering the question: "Who chooses whom?", it is also important to pay attention to the traditions of education of the majority of people living today. Most of the population of our country was born in the Soviet Union and brought up in the strict rules of that time. The best qualities of a girl of that time are shyness and diligence. Well, how could a lady think that she could choose a man for herself? Even the song says that the girls are standing and waiting on the sidelines … along the way, wondering who will be left alone. That is why the older generation is likely to act in accordance with the norms of their upbringing. As for youth, the question is twofold. On the one hand, thisyoung people were brought up by mothers who still consider Soviet moral standards to be normal, bringing them into the life of their child. However, another weapon enters the battle - the media, which dictate what modern girls should do in order to become successful and achieve a lot not only in their careers, but also in their personal lives. Various "Bitch Diaries" and other literature tells modern representatives of the weaker sex that it is they who should choose with whom to live and communicate, somewhat changing not only the behavior model of the beautiful half of humanity, but also their consciousness. And to tell the truth, not a few, but very specific!

What men choose based on: historical moments

So without having an unambiguous answer to the question: “Who chooses whom: a man a woman or a woman a man?”, You need to try to make a small list of criteria that both sexes are guided by when choosing a life partner. What is the main thing for the representatives of the stronger sex? How does a man choose his woman?

Nature inherent in the consciousness of people is that men are conquerors and earners, women are the keepers of the family hearth and the successors of the family. It has always been important for men to have he althy offspring. It used to be that the more magnificent the shape of a woman, the better, because this means that she does not starve and can bear, give birth, feed and raise he althy offspring without any problems. At the moment, this criterion no longer works, because today a fat lady, as a rule, does not have excellent he alth, rather,on the contrary: obesity and related illnesses gradually destroy the body.

The second dignity of women, by the standards of bygone years, can be formulated as follows: she talks little, works a lot. It cannot be said that modern representatives of the stronger sex would refuse this, however, such ladies can hardly be found anywhere. But even if our contemporaries always work and often earn very good money, they do not intend to remain silent. And without a twinge of conscience they express their dissatisfaction with men on various occasions. And also for no reason.

And the woman had to be able to cook well what the man would bring from the hunt. Today, in principle, little has changed, and men, just as before, love to eat deliciously. The well-known proverb, which says that the way to a man's heart lies through the stomach, can remind everyone of this once again. But women don't always want to spend time at the stove…

Men's Choice: Contemporary

Today, a few more selection criteria have been added. So how does a man choose his woman? The first factor is appearance. And if earlier this was not particularly paid attention, today beauty and grooming are a guarantee that the desired man will pay attention to the lady. Yes, guys love with their eyes, so a girl should always be attractive. Light make-up, tastefully selected outfit, well-groomed body and seductive forms - all this is today, probably, the first criterion when choosing a life partner for men. It is also important for modern men thatthe woman was educated, well-read, had a speci alty and could earn money on her own, and not hang around their necks. As before, and today, very often men choose women who look like their mothers. And girls, respectively, are looking for guys who look like their fathers (or, alternatively, the exact opposite of their parents).

What do women do?

Earlier, we found out that there is no unequivocal answer to the question "who chooses - a man or a woman". But in most cases, after all, a man takes the first step towards creating a new couple. Which does not prevent women from finding ways and options to arrange everything in such a way that, acting as the initiator of the creation of new relationships, leave the appearance of a male choice. For example, social networks are of great help in this direction. Girls can easily be the first to be added as friends to guys, like their photos and write comments, thereby showing their interest. The woman's choice has been made, but it remains to be seen whether the chosen one decides to take the first steps. It is also not uncommon for a guy to be surrounded by several women who are actively fighting for his attention and favor. So who and who chooses in such a situation? It will take a long time to figure this out.

Criteria for selecting men

And what kind of men do women choose? At all times, ladies preferred excellent earners. Today, little has changed, and for a woman it is important how much a man can provide for his family. The guy shouldn'tbe offended if a girl is interested in his financial condition or place of work, position and salary, because it is first of all important for her that her offspring can exist normally.

No less important criterion today (and it used to be) is the appearance of a man. But not so much bright beauty as the presence of muscles, which means strength. Again, ladies want to see an educated man nearby. That, perhaps, is all. Of course, there are still many different nuances, criteria for personal choice, which can be equally important for both girls and men.

General conclusions

What can be said about the current situation? Today, everything is so mixed up and merged together that it is simply impossible to give an unambiguous answer to the question of choice. A woman can notice a trend: she chooses - she is chosen. But over time, the situation can change dramatically. The model of upbringing, and, accordingly, women's behavior today has been greatly changed. Often ladies try on the role of a man, and no one will condemn them in this desire. Women become stronger and freer, while men begin to relax, lose their masculinity and dominance. It is difficult to say whether this is good or bad. These are the realities of today. Who chooses, who is chosen?.. One article is not enough to answer this question. If only because, for starters, you need to decide: why choose? Everyone judges according to their ideals. One thing is for sure: if a woman decides to conquer a man, she will do it openly or surreptitiously,leaving the representative of the stronger sex the opportunity to consider himself the main initiator.