How young families have children in the current conditions

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

At all times, children were born constantly and without close attention to this issue of parents. It just wasn't necessary. But something has clearly changed in today's state of affairs. What was the reason that the question of how to have children already sounds painful and even hopeless for our society? I will not touch on the problems of ecology, he alth and financial opportunities. They are, of course, important, but they are not of such decisive importance. Otherwise, there would not be large families in the neighborhood, where it is hard to even talk about well-being. I think that the main reason is not to be found here.

From my own experience I will say that most of the causes of our failures, misfortunes and even diseases are in ourselves, namely in our head, psyche and in our thoughts. It does not make sense to eagerly re-read all the articles on pregnancy, to see mothers with prams with longing eyes, and even more so to experience all the traditional and even unthinkable methods of conception. I can't guarantee it will be 100% successful, butunderstand yourself first, and then most of the factors will disappear by themselves. Do not allow outside things to influence your life. This is the secret of large families, they never even wondered how they have children.

In most cases, medicine is simply powerless to establish the causes of infertility. Most likely, the first and main problem here is fear and constant hesitation: whether to have a child at all. Analyze! At 15, you were scared of early pregnancy, and you were afraid. At the institute, you were afraid that your parents would oppose your grandchildren, they wouldn’t help, and you haven’t worked up yet. After the university, it was necessary to get on your feet, build a career, acquire housing, amenities, and so on. All somehow there was no time, desire and opportunity. So, you yourself gave the installation to your body that you simply do not need children. At the same time, it was given at a time when the main vital functions were aimed specifically at childbearing.

So, your first and main task is to be ready yourself. To do this, it is necessary to eradicate this deeply ingrained attitude from oneself and direct all one's inner forces, thoughts and impulses in the right direction. Your true female nature will help you, just release it in yourself, stop pinching it with the conventions of time, status and position. And stop reproaching yourself for everything and exhausting with different questions. In a word, be free!

The next important question is the buzzing assertion that children are born according tolove and nothing more. Judging by daily practice, this is far from the case. But there is one "but". If you dream of a child, family comfort, well-being of the new life you have given, you really need to give birth to a child out of love. Your thoughts, mood, desires give the first and deepest setting for the formation of a new person. And love is the strongest and truest feeling that creates only beauty. With such a first attitude, the little man born by you will go through this difficult life more confidently, because you have already laid a spark of happiness in him. And it does not matter whether you personally managed to preserve your well-being, your beloved and a strong family. Unfortunately, it doesn't always work out the way you want. But you aspired to it, and this is the main thing.

How are children made? It is very important that this issue is of concern not only to the future mother, but also to the future father. It is simply necessary that a man also wants a child. And he didn’t just want, for example, as pride, the successor of the family, self-realization, but as his part, the continuation of himself and his love for a woman. Often the mother wants the child, and the man, at best, simply loves her and agrees with her. And believe me, it's hard to deal with it. But it is worth moving in this direction. If your husband does not share with you the joy of expecting a child, he will not be able to share with you the difficulties of the first years of a baby's life. And if the father does not make friends with the newborn, then over time it will be more and more difficult to find a common language with both the baby and you. Therefore, do not miss the opportunity to draw the attention of your man to the issue.the birth of a child. Always share your worries and consider his opinion. This is all very important.

Not so easy to do, as they say. But if you manage to solve these basic nuances, then your love and aspiration will tell you the right direction. Then you will find on your own the right solution for your family. Then tips and someone else's experience will be superfluous for you. Learn to feel your situation from the inside, from the depths of your heart, in order to feel all your personal needs and requirements. Then you will be able to make the right decisions for you and your family.

Maybe the described problematic situation has its advantages. After all, simply posing the question of whether to have a child already sets parents up for a responsible attitude to this problem. And if earlier this process was entirely left to God's care, now the couple also bears moral responsibility for the new little man. Therefore, the main answer to the question of how children are born in today's families, in my opinion, should be: "With great responsibility." That's just a responsible attitude to something always entails additional difficulties. But do not despair, just move in the right direction and always work on yourself. And you will definitely succeed.

Not everything is in our power, but we can do something. Therefore, do not forget the saying: "Trust in God, but don't make a mistake yourself!" Good luck to you and your family!