Married couples in the "Swedish" model

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Monogamy is actively encouraged by modern laws and lifestyles. Despite the fact that ideal married couples exist only on the covers of magazines or in commercials, this is a persistent stereotype. A happy marriage is a husband and wife who met each other at the school (student) bench, and their offspring. The third adult is undoubtedly superfluous.

This is how the family is perceived in the mass consciousness. However, in life everything is not so simple, and most of the marriages break up, and in other cases, either trips to the left or serious romances happen. There is no need to go far: let us remember the love and family life of our great ones. Alexander II, Nekrasov, Pushkin, Tyutchev, Blok, Bely, Mayakovsky, Vysotsky… No one had an idyll.

Monogamous faithful couples are the exception rather than the rule. For such a model of relations, in which either two men share one woman (Blok, Bely and Lyubov Mendeleeva), or the husband has, in addition to his wife, also a mistress (or a secondspouse - for example, like Ivan Bunin), there is even the term "Swedish family". By the way, it does not necessarily mean sexual adultery. The triangle can connect various relationships - both platonic and erotic, including bi- and homosexual (Henry Miller, his wife June and her lover). An important difference from treason is openness. Such married couples may experience a variety of feelings, for example, someone may strive to save the marriage and for the sake of this gives freedom to the spouse (example: the Mayakovsky triangle - Lilya and Osip Briki). But all participants in such an alliance accept it at a certain stage of the relationship.

So, there are many examples. Whether it is worth following them - everyone decides for himself. In such relationships, people give up the "property right" to a partner, therefore, in a certain sense, these unions are spiritualized. By discarding selfish jealousy, they acquire not only new experience. Such triangles also transform the psyche of each of the participants. After all, if there is rivalry, it must be controlled. An exchange of partners (the so-called "swing") may also be envisaged. But more often you can find sentences like "a girl for a married couple".

And far from always the initiator of such "bigamy" is a man. Often this type of relationship is ideal for bisexual girls. Married couples are often looking not just for diversity, but for a full member of their union, with whom they can share both weekdays and holidays. On dating sites, there are often ads like "I'm looking for a married couple" - and pay attention, this is not only about sexual relationships. You can evaluate this phenomenon in different ways, you can resent licentiousness or admire emancipation. But couples who decide on such an experiment are worthy of respect. By the way, in Eastern communities, polygamy is generally legalized, which means it has the right to life. From a biological point of view, such relationships also have their justification. By fertilizing several females, the male contributes to the genetic diversity of the genus. The most serious problems can arise for "married" couples, for whom Orthodoxy or the Catholic faith forbid such relationships unambiguously. And from the point of view of officials and legislators, this is not an easy situation. Therefore, such couples cannot formalize a relationship with a third party.