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Asexuality is a weak sexual desire or its absence at all, up to complete indifference to sex. This is not a disease, but rather a sexual orientation. And more often acquired than congenital. Asexual is a phenomenon that has been studied by scientists since 1950.
The rise of asexuality
The concept of "asexuality" has existed for thousands of years. In many cultures, this was considered and is still a manifestation of holiness. For example, monks, priests, girls who have taken a vow of celibacy. In ancient times, asexuality was even encouraged.
Popularity of asexualism
Asexualism has gained popularity since 2001. The impetus for this was the site of David Jay Aven. He created an asexual society on the Internet. The portal has already registered 50 thousand people from all over the world. True, they call themselves heteroromantics who have feelings for other people, but have no sexual attraction to them.
Who is asexual? The meaning of this concept
Asexuals are called "Generation X". The term first appeared in the United States when scientists described the period from the sixty-fifth to the eighty-two. During this period of time, there was a demographic decline that followed the sexual revolution.
Asexual is a person who does not experience sexual desire. For one reason or another, he is not interested in sex at all. Scientists have found that such people do not have any deviations in physical development. But they deliberately refuse sex.
Asexuals are not without feelings. They are capable of love. And they believe that deep platonic feelings are ideal. They are not aroused by pornography. Intimacy means only pleasant long conversations, and a woman's breasts or a man's penis are just organs of the body. Sexopathologists note that men most often become asexuals. And the number of such people is increasing.
Asexual groups
Asexuals can be divided into several groups:
- Singletons are singletons. They can have sex. But at the same time they do not get pleasure, and do not want to start a family. More often, they enter into intimate relationships in order to give birth to a child for themselves. Sometimes they just get a dog or a cat.
- Beavers are workaholics. For the sake of a career and money, they give up family and sex. They do not like sports, they spend their free time on the Internet. Sometimes they pair up, but not for sex, but to maintain an image.
- "Butterflies" is the intellectual elite. They are careless, constantly traveling and changing occupations. They love music and sports. But children and sex do not matter to them. They live only for themselves.
- The Blue Stockings are mostly feminists. Oftenvegetarians, yoga lovers. They love parties, visit exhibitions and galleries. Free time is spent watching TV. They think it's better to have friends than family. Refusing intimate relationships.
- "Eternal Children". People from this group become asexual from adolescence. The reasons may be the divorce of parents, strict upbringing, cruel attitude.
Causes of asexuality
Asexual girls may not experience sexual desire due to very painful deflowering. Men - from disappointment in sex. The reason for indifference to the intimate side of life must be sought from childhood. For example, strict parents, wanting to protect the child from harm, inspire him that sex is a shameful and bad occupation. There can be many reasons for asexuality:
- psychological trauma;
- low libido;
- disgust;
- bad past experience;
- disgust;
- feeling of alienation;
- depression;
- rape, etc.
Asexuality sometimes comes from promiscuous and frequent sexual intercourse. A person tries to try the whole "Kama Sutra", and after that he loses interest in sex completely. The promotion of free love in the media and on television can encourage a desire to resist such obsessions. A person unconsciously begins to avoid sex, since there is nothing secret, intimate, hidden anymore. Interest is lost, and as a result, the desire for intimacy disappears.
Why do asexuals hate sex?
Asexuals - the orientation is separate. Basically, these are educated and well-read people. They are not against marriage bonds or the birth of children. Maintain relationships with the opposite sex and lead a normal life. They just refuse to have sex. It is normal for them not to want him.
Some people think it's a waste of time. Although, in order to please a loved one, they periodically enter into an intimate relationship with him. Some asexuals experience indifference or aversion to sex. The main reason lies in the previously received psychological trauma.
Is asexualism innate or acquired?
With congenital asexuality, a person does not have an interest in intimate relationships, even during puberty. This is when the hormones are at their most active. If asexuality is acquired, then it may be the result of psychological trauma or rape, after seeing a sexual scene in childhood, or as a result of rough and cruel sex. For example, when the first experience was not pleasant and there was disgust for intercourse.
Can asexuals have children?
Asexuals can have children if there are no deviations in he alth. An asexual is a person who simply has his own attitude towards sex. In physical terms, such people are no different from everyone else. And during sex, they can even experience arousal. They just don't enjoy it. And as soon as an asexual girl gets pregnant, shecompletely refuses further sex. But the child safely bears and gives birth.
Also, if a man has become asexual, this does not mean changes in the physical plane. He still has sperm. The penis becomes aroused and the man can safely end intercourse by sending sperm into the vagina to conceive a child.
Asexuality - a disease or a new orientation?
Many psychiatrists and sex therapists do not consider asexuality a disease. But some experts do not agree with them and name several prerequisites for its occurrence:
- endocrine and psychiatric diseases;
- poisoning with drugs or s alts of heavy metals;
- nervous system damage.
But according to ongoing research, it has been established that sexual desire is individual, and does not directly depend on diseases. Some may desire sex more than once a day, while for others twice a month is sufficient.
Consequences of asexuality
Asexual is a person who is in the "risk group". His prolonged abstinence from sex can "come back" with serious he alth consequences. Abstinence from the point of view of medicine affects a person negatively. It is especially dangerous for men. Lack of sex affects sperm motility. There is a risk of prostatitis. You may experience premature ejaculation during sex. Moreover, the older the man, the harder his body tolerates abstinence.
Women don't benefit either. Prolonged abstinencecauses tearfulness, irritability, nervousness. Many gynecological diseases can occur, up to oncology. Premenstrual syndromes are aggravated, menstruation is difficult. The work of the genital organs is disrupted and much more.
