Teenager is a special system of values

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Teenager is not just a word for a teenager of 13-19 years old, it is a whole culture and system of life values, inextricably linked with certain problems and social phobias. The term teenager migrated to us from the English language. The origin of the word is associated with the postfix "teen" in numerals in the range from 13 to 19, for example thirteen, fourteen, etc. Psychologists consider this period in a person's life the most responsible and difficult. As a rule, young teenagers are highly susceptible to various social phobias.

Often they have a "syndrome of imaginary ugliness". At the same time, teenagers, comparing themselves with their idols, find their appearance non-standard, inconsistent with generally accepted ideals, and even ugly. Such thoughts often cause them suffering, every day strengthening the conviction of their inferiority. Teenagers are very vulnerable, especially when it comes to their appearance. Sidelong glances, whisperings, abruptly interrupted conversation… The teenager takes all this very close to his heart, although he tries not to show his feelings. But at the same time (paradox!) teenagers love to pose and be photographed. Photos of teenage girls becomethe subject of lively discussion among peers.

A teenager is someone who tries new things and looks for a foothold in life, builds relationships with the opposite sex, their parents and friends. The desire for self-determination of a teenager often leads him to various subcultural currents. He adopts values, attitudes, strives to stand out externally due to non-standard hairstyles, fashionable clothes and an abundance of cosmetics (for girls).

Teen trends are inextricably linked with fashion. Especially brightly different youth groups are differentiated among themselves due to clothing: wide trousers and spacious hoodies of representatives of hip-hop culture, black raincoats and heavy semi-military boots with high lacing for adherents of the Gothic style … For adults, such odious vestments cause bewilderment and criticism. Parents now and then teach their growing child, they advise "stop dressing like a clown" and "take up your mind." In turn, the offspring of 14-15 years old react aggressively to such criticism and ask their parents “not to interfere in their lives.”

As a rule, teenagers rarely share their problems with adults, opposing themselves to them. They prefer to spend their free time either in the company of their own kind or alone in their room.

At a more adult - student - stage, teenagers are less prone to depression and seclusion. They are open and inquisitive. At the age of 17-19, many new hobbies and acquaintances appear. This is the era of creativity and bold experiments.

A teenager is a state of mind, and the age limits here are very arbitrary. You can behave like this at 11 and at 20 years old. Despite everything, this is a wonderful stage in a person's life: it is then that the first love comes, new friends appear who will remain for many years, life ideals and aspirations of young people are formed. You should not avoid all problems, because their solution is an important step on the way to growing up and becoming a person. Every person must walk this path. Parents make the mistake of rudely interfering in the life of a child at this stage of his development. If they want to maintain good relations with him, then all they can do is be a friend and adviser, but not a boss or commander.