Is "leftist" the salvation of a marriage or its failure?

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

The romantic period in a relationship invariably ends. And, when the routine finally sticks, in conversations with friends and girlfriends, no, no, and a hint about a leftist slips through. Does such a trip to the side strengthen the marriage or puts an end to later life with your spouse? There is no definitive answer: supporters of the radically sanctimonious opinion and those who like to go to the left clash to this day in verbal battles.

How many lefties are there in the world?

Jokers love to talk about good deeds and believe that they will not be called "marriage". But a similar situation develops around other words, one of which is “leftist”, a polysemantic term. Among his transcripts:

• counterfeit goods of unknown origin;
• person working on the side;
• employee using company equipment for personal needs;
• something bad, "sucks".

On the one hand, we are talking about something familiar, known to mankind. On the other hand, the word surrounds the veil of shame. You contact a leftist and immediately expect condemnation.

Is the third one extra?

In practice, it is not necessary to refuse many partners. This is confirmed by “free love”, which was most clearly manifested during the hippie era in the late 60s. A more conservative example would be harems, because this is no longer leftist - marriage with many husbands or wives. However, for each of the listed options, special psychological preparation is needed both for the participant in the relationship and for society. And even then, you can expect jealousy between partners due to lack of attention.

Unfortunately, human nature is built on selfishness, a sense of ownership. When you meet with a potential or current spouse, the leftist is from the forbidden category. If you plan to give your personal time and care to a specific person, why diversify your personal life with someone else?

What are sociologists saying?

The topic is extremely slippery. While there is nothing more deceptive than social studies, they give a general picture of the relationship. And very optimistic:

• one-time cheating was about 90% of couples;
• approximately 50% of divorces are due to sex on the side;
• about 40% of marriages became stronger after going left.

And if the partner is not permanent? Before marriage, the main threat to romance is the leftist, and no amount of excuses in the form of a bachelor or bachelorette party will help. Just finding someone more sexy or desirable next to your soul mate causes sharply negative emotions in a person.

How is this happening?

Changing, you demonstrate the failure of a lover. Men are more tied to physical sensations, they are looking for impressions and enjoy a new object for the realization of passion. Women are attracted to spiritual comfort, the feeling of someone stronger and more powerful, able to protect. Regardless of the circumstances, the presence of a leftist is a statement about the low quality of sex and the partner's personality in general. Believe me, a life partner in most cases will choose the worst option for reflection, which will aggravate the situation.

Is there any hope?

Relationships will become stronger only when you recognize cheating as a mistake, and your spouse forgives or does not know about it at all. If you survive the crisis, love will flourish due to a change in coordinates, the departure of sex from key positions in the evaluation of a loved one. It is much easier to be honest and start a family without thinking about the leftist, and after the fading of feelings, get a divorce so as not to torment yourself and your family, or directly talk about your anxieties, hidden desires.