Difficult children: why do they become so, and how to raise them properly?

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Very often young mothers complain that they cannot find a common language with their child. At the same time, everyone compares an already grown up baby with a newly born baby and envy those mothers who, not knowing worries and problems, calmly raise their children. However, such a comparison is silly, because a certain age is characterized by its own habits, so it is necessary to learn to distinguish between the child’s ordinary activity and the developing “problem”. In relation to naughty kids, the expression "difficult children" is most often used. They may not listen to their parents at all, be too independent, harmful, stubborn, but do not forget that these are just kids. With the right upbringing, even difficult children become the most ordinary, quiet, affectionate and loving babies.

Problems of this nature most often occur in young parents whoThey are just learning to raise their first child. The slightest mistake, and the baby is already starting to behave badly. And in this situation, we can say that it is the parent, and not the child, who is primarily to blame. We must always remember that it is our communication with children that can cause both positive and negative results. It is quite natural that the baby, who constantly hears only the cry of his own mother, sooner or later becomes indifferent to him. As a result, a teenager embittered at all grows up from a normal baby, who in the future will raise his children in the same way. Therefore, difficult children are nothing but the result of improper parenting.

When raising her voice to her child, a mother often justifies her behavior by saying that she is afraid to accustom the baby to such behavior. On the one hand, the fear is really understandable, because if the child does not hear “no”, but receives permissiveness, he will be able to behave in absolutely any way and will quickly get used to this. However, the situation is twofold, and you should learn to see the line when you can raise your voice to a child, and when it is better to let him do what he wants.

Let's imagine that your baby has ceased to obey and does only what his heart desires. First of all, you need to understand that raising difficult children is a painstaking and long process, so be patient. What positions are suitable in such a situation, we will describe below.

1. Don't forbid him everything. similar jerkingand constant prohibitions only embitter the baby and do not give him freedom. Let him try to draw on the wall - it will be easy to erase it, but he will see that he was allowed to do it. In the future, you just need to explain to the child that you can draw on paper, and the walls should be clean. After repeating this several times without screaming, you will see the result in a few weeks.
2. Don't scold him in front of everyone. It affects your child too much and creates a number of complexes. If the kid has done something out of the ordinary, it is better to tell him quietly that this is not allowed than to break out into an angry tirade for half an hour.
3. Never hit a child. This approach is immoral.
4. Don't shield him from everything. Very often, a mother tries to protect her child from any problems. It is advisable to do this when the child is still very small, but the grown-up baby needs to make some stupid things and mistakes. This is an experience that will definitely come in handy in the future. Giving a child detailed instructions for each action, you risk raising a person who is not able to make independent decisions.

Difficult children are very quickly re-educated, if everything is done correctly. Let your child feel your care (but not excessive), and then everything will be fine and hassle-free.