Often, married couples are formed because of mutual attraction to each other, great love or falling in love. At these moments, people do not think about whether they have any common hobby. But it is so important to have common interests and family affairs, because if love is not nourished by anything else and does not even have common topics for conversation, then sooner or later this state of affairs will inevitably lead to divorce.
What should be the purpose of the family?
Unfortunately, in our time, the science of the family and how to build it correctly is forgotten. Therefore, there are so many family unions in modern society that seem prosperous and successful in appearance. But if you delve a little further, it turns out that happiness is not present in them.
In our age, the modern family already has an established stereotype of family life, which for many seems to be the norm. This is when a husband comes home from work tired after a hard day and immediately sits down to watch TV or play at the computer. At this time, his wife is engaged in housework or some other business in the kitchen, and the children play with their toys. Many will say that idyll and harmony reign in this union, but, apparently, they do not have common goals and family interests. They don't have jointemotions and empathy, so they eventually move further and further away from each other.
When people get married and go on an interesting journey called family life, they must clearly understand what their common goals are in order to go to them together. Until they are planned, a person will not understand what qualities his soulmate should be endowed with.
Modern family should not forget that common goals will be the key to long-term happiness and understanding.
What goals are considered a guarantee of a happy family
It is widely believed that the purpose of the family should be the birth and upbringing of good and he althy children. This, of course, is also important. But what will happen to this marriage when the children grow up and leave to build their own path? Everything, the goal of all life will be achieved, and nothing in common will remain. Therefore, spouses simply need to have other common interests and family affairs, in addition to children.
It is believed that a marriage between two people is a kind of school of love. And if the family truly appreciate and respect each other, then the relationship over the years only becomes stronger. Thus, the real goal of married life is to achieve perfect love.
The main goal of each spouse should be constant care for their soul mate and the task of making life easier for each other. If you follow all these rules and parting words and do not forget about them, then it is possible to achieve trust, harmony and happiness between them.
Joint hobbies and common leisure
According to the statistics that American scientists have deduced, every second man in the world spends his free time watching any TV shows. But why not watch them with your wife? After all, you can choose any program that both will like, or download a movie, which is very easy to do in our age of the Internet. Even such a joint pastime can become a link that binds the family and gives a new topic for conversations and discussions. For example, you can make it your family tradition every Friday to arrange such joint viewings with popcorn and various other goodies.
Common interests and family affairs can be found outside the walls of the house. It’s good if this is associated with some kind of physical activity, as scientists have proven that a passive lifestyle affects not only a person’s he alth, but also his psyche. Suppose you can come up with the following active common affairs and interests of the family. Examples:
Joint outdoor recreation.
Hiking with a break for a snack.
Do any active sports.
A real hike with a tent and overnight in the forest.
This type of holiday does not require large expenses at all, but only the desire and desire to spend time together.
Common interests of parents and child
The role of the family in a child's life is undoubtedly very important. Not to missmoment during the growing up of the child and always remain a friend to him, you need to have mutual things with him, of course, for spending time together.
It is not at all difficult to find common causes and interests of the family. The surrounding world, if you look at it only with different eyes, can suggest a lot of ideas for this. For example, if the child is older and can take care of a pet, you should get a common family pet and walk together when time permits. At such moments, there is an opportunity in a relaxed atmosphere to discuss with your child any of his problems and what may be bothering him.
Parents can learn, if they don't already know how, roller skating or skiing, and then have so much fun with the whole family. A good tradition can be a morning run or an evening yoga class. Yes, anything, the main thing is to be together.
Favorable family climate
When a child grows up in a family, it is very important what family climate reigns in it. From parents, the child receives preparation for further life in society. Therefore, it cannot be denied that the role of the family plays an important role in shaping his personality.
A child, like a sponge, absorbs what happens within the walls of his house, and then he transfers all these foundations and rules into his adult life. If it is customary for parents to have common interests and family affairs, then in the future their child will also act in their marriage, having learned this from early childhood. When children grow up where it is customary to communicate in a friendly andin a soft manner, then over time they will certainly build the style of their communication with other people in the same way.
There is only one conclusion that can be drawn from this - in order to raise a good and successful child, it is necessary that the family has a he althy moral and emotional microclimate.
Spiritual aspects of family life
An important role in the harmonious relationship of a married couple is played by spiritual closeness, which after years can be irretrievably lost, unless you constantly work on its presence in life. To do this, you can choose a joint spiritual hobby, such as dancing. After all, there is nothing better and more pleasant than circling in a pair with your loved one.
Now it is not uncommon to come across a situation where already elderly spouses sign up for dance lessons in order to give their relationship some zest and novelty. Many psychologists have approved such a joint pastime, as dance allows you to penetrate deeper into the personal space of your soul mate.
What is the relationship between family and society?
Family from time immemorial has been considered the main unit of society. It is entrusted with many functions, the most important is the continuation of the family. Therefore, all civilization and social relations begin with the family.
How a person treats his loved ones, so he will treat other people. If betrayal and swearing reign in the house, then the person who is brought up in such an institutionfamily, will eventually think that the same can be done with people who are completely strangers to him.
Therefore, one should never forget a very simple thing - relationships depend primarily on what people are willing to do for them themselves.