Why men like bitches: relationships, understanding, psychology, different outlooks on life and the stereotypes we believe in

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Do men like bitches? This question was probably asked even in the Garden of Eden - it is so old - and, most likely, it will always be asked with bewilderment. How can you like something that a priori has a minus sign? The more paradoxical are the realities of life - bitches get a lot, and mother's daughters remain out of work. Why is everything for some and nothing for others? A bitch is never deprived of male attention. And a cozy, homely girl who hates all the bitches of the world is very surprised - why does she look into the mouth of her beloved and anticipate his desires, and he runs to the one who wipes her feet on him? Where is the catch? What's the matter?

Immediately a disclaimer, the "bitch - man" relationship is not quite normal. This is a kind of violence and vampirism. But why do men like bitches? Let's go back to childhood, because our emotions and fears, attachments and our character are formed precisely in thistime.

Start Mom

No matter how we get out of the skin, in the life of a man there is Mom. She is a trendsetter, first violinist and mother-in-law in general - it means "all blood". So she enjoys her role with all her heart. Everything is natural. The boy loves her more than life and … is afraid of her. After all, mother in childhood was hardly on ceremony - she would slap, punish, deprive of sweets. Anything, as long as he obeys and does everything right.

"Try hard or you'll be waving your broom!" - so says, probably, every angry mother to a lazy son-student. And grabs the belt. What happens when a boy grows up? Tears and sobs into the pillow from his wife, he does not understand. But the icy tone, unblinking eyes and words like "I'm about to lose my patience" act on him like a naughty puppy. Ears and tail flatten, and the person in front of you begins to dream of being thrown on a leash. The dignity of a person is infringed, there is no need to talk about his self-esteem at all - it is buried. That's why men like bitches - they remember their strict saw mom.

Girls with "bitch" stamped on their foreheads don't have to do anything. They don't need to conquer the male sex. It's a shame even for the guys - they spread like a puddle in front of them and drag them to the registry office, showering them with gifts.

Continued - teacher

There is another image - the first teacher who says: "In order to write a test like that, it is necessary that the brains do notworked", "The first time I see such a stupidity", and pointers and rulers are also used to physically confirm threats. Now this is not used, at least in large cities.

At home, mom continues: "My son is such mediocrity!". Double whammy for a guy. Mom is the first woman in the boy's life, whom he loves without memory. The teacher is the second, whose authority is sometimes greater than that of the mother. Both of them "press" him, but they are the main women in his life, that's why men like bitches, it's very simple - emotions and affections from childhood are extrapolated to the whole adult life.

Do you think a guy who had such a mother and such a teacher would like a timid, downtrodden sissy? Not! They need a soldier in a skirt. It's all at the level of instincts, subconscious and, of course, libido. They are incredibly attracted to selfish women who only care about themselves, they, commanders, are forced to obey, which for many men is sweeter than honey.

The behavior of the captive

A classic henpecked man in the arms of a bitch will be afraid not to please her. He will try his best to behave correctly and become … a good son for a new mother, who, of course, is unhappy with everything. If she is satisfied, then not for long, and after all, an interesting fact: if she is satisfied with everything, she automatically ceases to excite him, excite and like him. Henpecked and mother's son is a classic case when a man likes a bitch for some reason in its purest form, so that everything is as tough as possible: to beat, so backhand, to scold -with all my heart and with all my anger. A poor husband in such a family constantly feels very uncomfortable and all the time he seems to have to apologize for something:

• he doesn't pay attention to home and wife as he is always at work;
• he was late to the restaurant;
• careless about some important issue;
• he makes little money;
• he forgot to buy coffee;
• he looked askance at his wife's mother, and - God forbid - refused her request.

And when at least one of these "triggers" works (let's call it that, because being a bitch with her scandalousness and generation of conflict energy is a kind of continuous post-traumatic stress disorder), a song begins from the part of the missus a la "You cooled down to me, what am I to you - a rag ?!" The husband rushes to make amends with all his might and receives additional "cuffs". Such a swing, and not boring!

Paradoxical happiness

The bitch in the world of men is a frequent phenomenon that causes shivers in all mothers of boys. Psychologists and sexologists believe that if a man manages to revive these experiences of fear, which is replaced by happiness against his background (or what seems to be happiness against the background of constant stress), let’s say, plunge a man into childhood, then the family will be strong and the marriage will not fall apart. In any case, such a husband will not want to leave such a wife anywhere.

From the point of view of psychology, everything is very simple. A person always wants to escape from problems in childhood, because it was comfortable and safe there,there we were protected. A man finds a woman who will remind him of his mother, who was unhappy with him in childhood and whom he is afraid of, so as not to aggravate relations, and tries to smooth everything over. Having acquired this format, he will be afraid of losing it.

Do you think there are few such men? Experts say that this type prevails in Russia … And it turns out that tyrant mothers are to blame for why men like bitch women.

The woman in this pair

The lady in this relationship behaves simply disgustingly - she complains about her bitter fate, curses her, saying that she has to endure an infantile body at home, says that she married a strong man, and got a child.

Such women, as a rule, come from families in which the mother dominated, and the father did not have the right to vote and was a kind of "weight". If a boy grew up in an atmosphere full of love and respect from his parents, he will never pay attention to a bitch. Craving for bitches is a pathology and a sign of trouble in the relationship between son and mother. And to the question of what kind of men like bitches, the answer suggests itself: unkind and unloved, downtrodden and pathologically suppressed by the female "I". A bleak picture!

Treatment of pathology

Dear men, like any unhe althy behavior, such a disease in a relationship should be treated. But first it must be identified. Assess if there is love in your couple? Or is there simply fierce competition and a desire to befirst, and hence the born need for conflicts?

Does your girlfriend only think about how to "press" you harder and how to be a bitch in a relationship? With a man who respects himself even a little bit, such tricks don't work…

The scary thing is that such powerful passionate conflicts replace normal family relationships, and against their background, the usual quiet family haven looks and seems very insipid and unnecessary.

Advice to the stronger sex

If instead of just living and moving forward, you are constantly puzzled by the questions "have I not earned respect and happiness?", "what do I need this life for?" and the like, tell yourself "stop." These are neurotic symptoms with very pernicious consequences. Think if not about your mental he alth (and physical too, because these relationships are exhausting), then about those around you. About their household members, about children who see this disgrace and then extrapolate this format to their lives. Do you need it? And it is even more harmful for them!

Change yourself, otherwise you will never get out of the state of war and conflict, you will constantly have that feeling of resentment, that feeling of guilt and self-pity, you will consider yourself an eternal victim. This is fraught with years of misfortune and stolen life for absolutely everyone who is involved in this and who is watching from the sidelines. Believe me, it's pathetic.

As soon as you hear from your dearest "half" raised voices, hysterical notes, orders and ultimatums, slamming doors and breaking dishes, fromyou need to immediately stop this behavior, saying firmly that if this does not stop, then the relationship will end. And if it happens again, then you knocked on the wrong door.

Mentally he althy men are able to stop any woman's tantrum, it's never too late to do it, at any stage of the relationship. The neurotic bitch will be overwhelmed by the harsh approach to herself, she will be taken aback.

Men, it is important for you to realize that you are attracted to a certain type of woman, and, having understood what is happening, you will find yourself on the path to recovery. Find a woman who will take care of you, and when faced with a bitch, do not bow your head, but show a he althy resistance and in no case let her get the better of you.

To overcome cravings for such women is not easy, but it will definitely pass, and you will turn into a normal person, and not a BDSM victim. A normal person does not continue a relationship in which they are not respected.

Who is this bitch?

Probably, the majority will have a certain collective image of a cynical and cold woman, insanely sexy and beating everyone in the field of eloquence, self-sufficient and walking on a knife edge. It is impossible to relax with such a woman.

Why are they so attractive? The bitch has collected in herself those qualities in which the stronger sex usually lacks. Such ladies both beckon and repel at the same time. It definitely won’t be boring with them, and the man will have to lay out everything without a trace, right up to the bed. Stress when dealing with such ladiesadds "pepper" to life. Sometimes this is not enough for many.

What kind of men like bitches?

There are several options to name here:

1. A weak man who prefers to live in someone's shadow and be led. He will be glad if the bitch will lead their duet - he will gladly follow her. This is the mother-son pattern. These guys are often abandoned, and very rarely leave.
2. Another reason why men love bitches is the nature of the conquering male. The lady must be "taken" with a sword in her hand. Such gentlemen are flattered by the attention of a cold impregnable lady, this is a hunter for whom relationships are only interesting when you need to strain. As soon as the lady stops twisting the ropes out of him, he gets bored and disappears.
3. Those who love to compete also love "peppered girls", because a bitch is a challenge to a man, his superiority and leadership in all areas. And by entering into a relationship with a bitch, a man "grows" as he tries his best to keep up with his soul mate.
4. Finally, a man - a hidden masochist - becomes attached to a bitch, because he gets what he wants from her - submission and humiliation. This is psychopathology. Such a relationship is boring for a bitch, she needs to flare up, peaceful smoldering is not for her.

Why does a lady become a bitch and is it a fake in front of us?

Important to understand:

1. Many girls after reading a lot of smart books like "How to be a bitchwith a man "concluded that these are the ladies who rule the world. After all, there is no one's own worldview, so you need to use someone else's, and even seasoned with such a delicious sauce.
2. Girl looks at her bitch idol and copies her.
3. Bitchiness can be a defense against the male sex, when, disappointed in love, a woman closes herself, cowardly and afraid to hurt herself.
4. The lady realizes that she can easily achieve everything in life by manipulating men. This is the most dangerous bitch. She will unscrew everything that is spinning. You really need to run headlong from such people.

How do you tell a bitch from a serious, picky girl?

Please note that if a woman is the owner of such a set of qualities, this does not mean that she should be written down as a bitch. After all, not a single self-respecting girl will rush to meet you right away, she needs to take a closer look. If a man thinks that he is a prince for any of us, this is a mistake.

Maximum frank communication will help to remove all masks. Stock up on patience. Show respect for the desires of the girl, for her sense of freedom, understanding of personality, awareness. The girl will definitely also "test" you, provoking and simulating various situations, testing you for consistency and firmness, probing the boundaries between groveling and respect. Here it all depends on how the man behaves. Will he be able to understand whether they are using him or just giving him the opportunity to prove himself. Listen to your heart and keep your head up.

Don't be afraid

A bitch lives in every ladythis gives it a spice and acts like any medicine. But if there is a lot of it, it can poison the girl. What men really shouldn't do is be afraid. In the end, who does not risk does not win - this is the correct life guide. Men love bitches, because they make the stronger sex feel even stronger, real heroes, living people, live a full life without stealing themselves.

How does a bitch behave with men?

The important thing about her behavior is this:

• Kind and strong - that's what people attract. And it doesn't matter what gender the person is. They are not hunters, they are very independent and ready to stand up for themselves when the line of what is permitted is crossed.
• "Steel Magnolia" is a flower on the outside, an inflexible metal on the inside. She uses womanhood to her advantage.
• She is honest and has a sober mind, not succumbing to romantic fantasies. She draws strength from her mind.
• She has the ability to resist pressure.
• Bitch lives by her own standards and plays by her own rules. She is confident, free, strong. She understands that a man will always treat her the way she treats herself. An insecure beauty will seem ugly to a guy.
• Not a grouch or a brawler, not rude or cruel. This woman is very polite and infinitely honest. She will not play up in front of anyone. And in fact, it is much easier to communicate with such ladies than with cutesy coquettes drowning in lies.