What to do if you fell in love with a friend?

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Friends are people close to you. You can always trust them. And you can always hope for good advice from them. But what should a woman do if she suddenly fell in love with a friend? How to behave?

Fell in love with a friend. What to do first?

So, in order. What to do if you fall in love with a friend? To begin with, simply understand: a friend is a close person. But you shouldn't turn him into a lover. Of course, you can try. But the negative consequences may not be long in coming. A friend may, for example, be offended. Or even worse, start dating you without feeling reciprocity. In a word, absolutely nothing positive! In general, think carefully. Otherwise, you risk losing both a friend and a loved one at the same time. Or maybe you just don't get enough attention…

Second

If you fell in love with a friend, think about finding a boyfriend for yourself. Or about a girl for him. It happens, of course, that guys give up their passions for the sake of so-called girlfriends. But this doesn't happen often. And even a lonely friend does not always need a soulmate.

By the way, friends (of different sexes) very often have completely differentcharacteristics. When choosing a friend, appearance, as a rule, is not looked at. But when choosing a partner - on the contrary. The same goes for hobbies. You will react quite adequately, for example, to the fact that your friend is sitting at the computer from morning till night. At the same time, your beloved man will disappoint you in this case.

Third

Next moment. If you fell in love with a friend, think about the desires of each of you. It is very important. As hard as it is, relationships can still be built. If a friend does not reciprocate you, maybe you don’t need to say anything to him? Take it and fall in love with yourself! Sometimes it's difficult… But it's possible! Try every method you are accustomed to using when attracting members of the opposite sex. Try to be a perfect woman both externally and internally.

And fourthly

By the way, it also happens: sometimes in her own way she even hated a friend, then fell in love. How to explain it? It's hard… But it happens. The main thing is, if you are not sure about this, do not start taking any action. It won't end well.

Don't forget that by making your friend fall in love with you, you take on double responsibility. Once you start a romantic relationship, you will never become friends (in the event that feelings cool down). Well, if you are not interested in a guy as a woman, he is unlikely to want to see you in the future. He may think that you communicated with him solely because of plans for further serious relationships. And yes, it will be difficult for you. After allyou care about this person.

In a word, making love out of friendship is not easy. And your efforts may not be worth it. Although, if you are sure of your feelings, perhaps there is no need to despair?

To a friend, but not to my own…

Stronger things happen. What, for example, to do if you fell in love with the best friend of your boyfriend or husband? Imagine how terrible it is! After all, everything seems to be fine with you. But suddenly your chosen one introduces you to an attractive man … Or even, on the contrary, to a young man who is unremarkable. In any case, something can suddenly turn over in your soul. It will seem to you that without this person you can no longer even live. Time passes, and thoughts are all about him and about him. You become indifferent to your fiancé or spouse.

What's the problem? Because you don't know how to do the right thing. Do you really have to leave the person with whom you have been living together for more than one month, or even more than one year. Or is it better to try to forget a new acquaintance? What if it doesn't work?

In general, this test is very serious. Do not rush to make a final decision. Try to be alone with yourself. Feelings, of course, can be very strong, but you should not be led by passions.

What if for real?

"I fell in love with a guy's friend," girls often say. The topic is quite popular today. If this happened to you, do not doubt that you are not alone at all. And different advicepeople can give many - the most controversial.

By the way, even Freud himself convinced people of the reasons that affect our desires. Perhaps in your relationship with a boyfriend or spouse, not everything suited you. Perhaps you were looking for another man, without knowing it? Many ladies specifically test their charms, trying to prove to themselves that they are seductive. The problem may be that the girl will get carried away and fall in love with her own "victim".

A friend of a beloved man can also attract you with his inaccessibility. Therefore, feelings may not actually be as strong as they seem. Falling in love with another may also seem because the girl is offended by her partner for some reason. Thus, she takes revenge, inflicts a strong blow on her chosen one.

Though feelings can be real. In this case, you will have to solve the problem as tactfully as possible. So that your ex-lover does not hurt.

Risk or not worth it?

And finally. The question arose before you: what to do if you fell in love with a friend? What is the best way to do it anyway? Maintain friendly relations? Or confess your love to a friend? Or maybe even enter into an intimate relationship with a man so that your boyfriend does not know anything about it? The latter option will become completely unpredictable and therefore too dangerous. It is not a secret for anyone that the phrase that everything secret sooner or later becomes clear. If the truth eventually comes out, you'll be in a very awkward position. Yes, and a man who has entered into a close relationship with the wife of his best friend, this situation is clearly not beautiful. Think also of the fact that he deceived his comrade. Why doesn't he deceive you later?

Probably best to be honest. Tell your husband or boyfriend everything. Act carefully. Help him overcome his feelings of jealousy. Just remember that this method will only help if you can understand each other.

However, it is desirable to look at the situation rationally. Just take and compare both men. Rate the qualities of each. Which one is better? With whom can you feel truly happy? Who attracts you more? And what happens if you suddenly lose your current man? Think well! Make no mistake!