A woman is a mystery, a mystery, a challenge. How to become a mysterious woman?

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

There is an opinion that a woman should have a secret that men would solve all their lives. This stereotype, most likely, was brought from the works of literary creativity, in which the mystery woman often appeared as one of the most striking and colorful characters. Numerous studies and surveys show that men do not need this “mystery” at the household level. For they value reliability, devotion and predictability in their companions, which is in no way comparable with "mysteriousness".

Mystery woman - fiction or real character?

Where do girls get the idea that they must have mystery? First, they are sure that it is a magnet for men. The guys, according to their deep conviction, again, it is not clear where it came from, they can’t stand “simple” young ladies - give them someone “more complicated”.

Secondly, from childhood, mothers and grandmothers impose on someone that a woman of mystery has more chances for a successful marriage and, as a result, for a successful and prosperous life. Otherbut the girls learned this attitude from women's magazines and websites that simply trumpet that a woman must be a puzzle that only a real man can solve.

Such propaganda is based on the theory of the hunting instinct of the stronger sex, which makes them "run" all the time in search of something new and fresh. And the constant unraveling of one girl will discourage him from looking around: why, because there are so many new and unknown things ahead!

What do men really want?

A mystery woman is, of course, good and exotic, but only as a lover or girlfriend who is not taken seriously. It's unpleasant, but that's how, for the most part, adequate men relate to "mysterious" women. As a wife or companion, they prefer to see balanced, sane, predictable and reliable young ladies. Why? Yes, because the "woman's mystery" and normal family life are simply incompatible.

An ordinary man needs good food, fresh and clean clothes, fed and well-groomed children in the house. Moreover, it should always be so, and not so that today it is, and tomorrow, suddenly, at the whim of his wife, this will not happen. Waiting for a stable life from a mysterious woman is a utopia, since these are mutually exclusive phenomena. Therefore, a normal man will marry a girl who is “understandable” and decent, focused on building a strong family, and not turning it into a tangle of secrets and intrigues.

There must be a mystery in a woman. Why is this neededstereotype?

There is not a single gloss (it doesn't matter whether printed or virtual) in which its creators would advise their readers to be simple, accessible and predictable girls. On the contrary, the idea is imposed on the fair sex that they should be completely bitch, temptress, temptress, insidious and cunning person, setting up their nets to catch men. The idea that a real woman should be a "mystery" to the men around her is replicated. Against this background, entire trainings are offered on the topic “How to become mysterious?”

And this is all based on the fact that a man will be much more interesting with such a woman, and that he will never leave her. But as we said, this has nothing to do with reality.

For the words "mystery" and "mystery" on a subconscious level are automatically associated with something fickle, unreliable, one might even say with a scam. But after all, no one wants to live like on a powder keg when you don’t know what awaits you at home and what to expect from your wife. So it "does not work" in real life - in the one that ordinary people live, and not in the one that exists on the pages of glossy magazines.

I'm all so mysterious…

But still there are enough women who want to become "mysterious". True, often they themselves cannot figure it out: is this desire introduced and imposed from outside, or does it really belong to them? In the end, it doesn't matter, as they are interested in the question of how to become a woman-a mystery and is it even possible to do this if by nature you are simple “like doors”.

If you wish, you can become anyone, at least turn from a gray mouse into an aggressive and bright lioness. Another question is how long you can play a role that is naturally unusual for you. When you see these newly-minted "mysterious" young ladies, you just want to say: "I don't believe it!"

Girls, having read such magazines and their recommendations, try their best to pretend to be femme fatales who, with their mystery, must on the spot fight the men and keep them near them almost all their lives (until they get bored, of course). Seeing the fruits of this reincarnation, many of them stop pretending to be Cleopatra and Semiramis, while others remain in this role even further, sincerely not understanding why their personal life does not add up.

Woman - mystery, challenge, riddle

The thing is that almost all girls either do not understand the meaning of such a phenomenon as a mystery woman at all, or, due to imposed stereotypes, interpret it fundamentally wrong.

After all, a woman in itself is a mystery of nature. Because each is unique both in terms of external beauty and the structure of her inner world. It can be compared with an unexplored distant planet, an endless and all-consuming space, with a separate Universe in which there is a different system of life, priorities and values. A real woman does not need to become mysterious on purpose, because she is already aware of her uniqueness and does not need to provethis is still some far-fetched tricks.

Mysterious or feminine?

A true woman will always be a "mystery" for her man. And this has nothing to do with those fatal and mysterious beauties that glamorous magazines advise to become.

Real femininity is the only quality that has always been appreciated and will be appreciated by normal men. Perhaps many girls just miss her, or they think that mystery and mystery are synonymous with femininity.

This is both so and not so at the same time. A real woman has all these properties, another question is how she “presents” them to her man. This is exactly what distinguishes her from those who, striving to be fatal ladies, actually want to find real femininity.