Child (2 years old) is afraid of children. Help from a child psychologist

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Raising children takes a lot of effort and time. Every mom and dad dream that their child grows up he althy, strong and smart. Ideally, they want to raise socially active children who will make contact with their peers and be able to express their dissatisfaction. But not all kids get it. But what if the baby speaks badly, is afraid of other children and animals? Where to walk with a child, how to develop his abilities? Let's try to figure it out.

Possible causes

If your baby does not like to be in crowded places, does not tolerate noise and companies, this does not mean that he is not like everyone else. Sometimes children want to play on their own, but parents should also influence their child. Give his thoughts and actions the right direction.

If a child (2 years old) is afraid of children, this does not mean that he is autistic or abnormal. This may indicate that the baby was offended by other children. He could justnot to understand what happened, but to remember it and not want this situation to happen again. Almost all children remember the mistakes of the first unsuccessful experience well. It is not surprising that they do not want to experience negative emotions again. It is unlikely that your child just like that, for no apparent reason, protects himself from other children.

All the actions of the child speak of the situations in which he has been. Children who rarely make contact with peers may be strongly attached to their mother and rarely go out into society. Because of these moments, the baby does not know how to behave and does not make friends with children.

Norms for children at 2 years old

First of all, it is worth sorting out the standards for children at the age of 2 years. If your baby does not perform all the actions that are described, or does not say all the words, do not despair. Perhaps you simply did not try to talk to him in his language, and the help of a child psychologist will not be useful at all. Just make more time for your child.

Motor and physical development:

• walks up and down stairs. Can lean on the railing or ask for the hand of an adult;
• steps over obstacles;
• running;
• stands on the stand;
• catches and throws the ball;
• plays children's outdoor games;
• draws lines and circles/ovals;
• able to bend down to pick up an object;
• controls facial expressions: folds lips into a tube, retracts cheekbones;
• kicks the ball.

Communication and words:

• studies children on the playground, tries to interact with them,
• can speak single words and ask questions,
• plays hide and seek,
• copies adults,
• asks for help,
• understands some everyday concepts,
• shows how old, says name.

Hygiene and life:

• eats and drinks on his own,
• brushes his own teeth,
• goes potty,
• takes off and puts on underpants,
• Able to take off and put on shoes with a light fastener.

This small list refers to the developmental standards for children at 2 years old. Every baby is different, some do all of the above and more, and some don't. Look at the development of your baby and do not miss the moment when you can interest him. Some parents teach all these procedures so that the child goes to kindergarten. Children 2 years old are usually taken to kindergarten if there are no other conditions for education.

Why do kids need to be social?

Modern parents in the age of the latest technology completely forget about simple truths. Even our ancestors passed on their experience and knowledge about the development of children, not only in educational activities, but mainly through games. The famous "Magpie-white-sided", "Ladushki", "Geese-geese" and other games are undeservedly forgotten. Although thanks to them you can develop not only fine motor skills, but also thinking, memory and perseverance.

Many children do not know how to communicate with their peers. The problem comes from childhood, such people, even in old age, often cannotexpress your desires.

Adults set boundaries for communication and want children to conform to those actions. But it is worth understanding that each child has his own knowledge of the world, each kid is independently able to learn how to contact other children, communicate, play and even resolve conflicts. Therefore, do not try to express your point of view when it is inappropriate. The playground in the yard is a great place for kids to socialize.

Narrow social circle

In fact, the mother herself is more dependent on the child than he is on her. This psychological trap is often confusing and misleading. If a child constantly spends time only with mom, dad or grandmother, then the illusion arises that there is no need for other people. Therefore, when appearing on the street, a child (2 years old) is afraid of children or avoids, does not make contact.

There is an opinion that if the baby sees a limited circle of people, then in society he can behave aggressively. This is not because he has such a character, everything happens because he has no idea how to communicate in an extended circle. Due to the fact that the child constantly spends time with adults, it is easier for him to contact with them than with peers. By organizing children's activities, you (and your baby) will enjoy the process.

Parents' actions

• Expand your social circle, not only yours, but also your child's.
• Change the scenery.
• Be friends with families - the more people the better.
• Play more children's outdoor games in the company of peersbaby.
• Show interest in activities with children.
• Praise your child more often.
• First, let's do easy tasks, then more difficult ones. After the baby copes with the first, say that he can, you just need to think.
• Teach your child how to play first, then ask them to play.

Hedgehogs

Children who are brought up strictly have more communication problems than children who are praised. Such a child will always have limits, try to please. Although in almost all cases, such requirements for children are too high. Because of this, the child withdraws into himself, because it is easier to be alone with his thoughts, where you will not be scolded, will not be demanded, and you will not be constantly not as good as you should.

After all, it is not without reason that children feel everything, and, accordingly, if your child (2 years old) is afraid of children, then he is simply not self-confident and anxious. With such a baby, children will behave coldly or rudely, to which the child will not respond, because at home this is a normal reaction to his actions.

With a child's low self-esteem, his anxiety and self-doubt increase. Such children often say that they cannot do anything. This means that the child is afraid of other children and needs your help. He doesn't know how to ask you and not get rejected. He is not confident in his abilities, although he would very much like to try.

Early autism

The most difficult case of a non-contact child is childhood autism. The playground in the yard does not cause joy,the child is self-contained and very comfortable for parents. Such children can move objects while sitting in one place for an hour. Modern medicine diagnoses such cases already in the first year of a baby's life.

Signs of early autism

1. Starting from infancy, a child does not experience the joy of communicating with relatives and mother.
2. When he is picked up, he does not want to touch an adult or hug him.
3. Does not make eye contact.
4. Repeat many times the same phrase, movement, action. These children develop speech late.
5. Autistic children walk on tiptoe or hop around with a thoughtful and distant expression.

If you have suspicions that the child may be sick, then contact a specialist. Timely detection of the disease is half the work on it. After the examination, the doctor will say whether the baby is he althy or sick.

If your child does have autism, start with small household chores that he can do on his own. Children's outdoor games will help you develop interest in communication. Get pets, they are very good at helping the child to realize responsibility and adapt to the world around.

Communication with children

Many children show their first reaction to peers in the form of aggression. This is not an alarming indicator, but a peculiar method of studying other children and the world. In such games, they can realize where is "mine" and where is "alien". Aggression is a primitive wayinteractions with other children. You can call it the first level of acquaintance.

Children are very sensitive, they are able to capture emotions and attitudes towards themselves. But in order for a child to get used to communication and outgrow fear and aggression, he must feel the constant support of his mother. Over time, his behavior will change, but for now, mom should prevent conflicts, attend children's events.

For example, a child (2 years old) is afraid of children because a toy was taken from him in the sandbox. When they try to take away his toy from your baby, and he is against it, then you should ask the offender: "Does my daughter mind you playing?" - or: "First ask Katya, then take it." This is necessary so that the child feels protected on your part and can defend his desires. After all, he is also a person, and it is necessary to respect his desires and protests. Time will pass, your baby will independently explain his rights to children.

If you see that your baby is simply offended from scratch, do not stand aside. Tell the offender in a stern tone that you can’t do this. This is bad! It is unlikely that he will want to continue, but if this does not work, then take the bad child aside. Until the baby reaches the age of 3, you must fully protect him if he cannot cope on his own. At an older age, children understand what is possible and what is not, they remember very well how their mother supported them, and independently defend their point of view.