Relationship school: true friends

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Good friendships don't always start on neighboring pots in kindergarten. In elementary school, finding the right friend is the easiest. Why? It's not that people get worse with age. The fact is that a small person is more flexible, more plastic. And so true friends often know each other from early childhood - it is easier for them to adapt to each other.

Trace in the psyche

Children grow up, but the imprint in the soul, imposed by childhood friendship, remains. If you are used to a silent friend, it will be difficult for you to communicate for a long time with a talkative one. And if you are not used to diluting the pauses yourself, then it will definitely turn out to be hard with a silent man. What does a true true friend mean?

To learn

To get good people as friends, you need to learn how to help and support yourself. Moreover, sincere, kind and warm support may be more important than financial or business assistance. Because true friendship is primarily a phenomenon of the emotional level. A business partnership is something completely different. In high school, it is desirable to learn both business and emotional communication: both of these skills are very useful in life.

Asymmetry is natural

Real friends usually know how to communicate at all levels - both close and far. Friendship is not only mutual, but also more or less unequal. We are used to the fact that only symmetry in relationships is considered normal. But life shows that we are too different to be in a state of absolute equality of receiving and bestowing. How to be a real friend? The main thing is to satisfy the psychological needs of a partner, and not to consider who, to whom and how much they owe.

Why be friends?

If you have a hard time with a person or he wants too much, you should discuss it with him. And according to the results of the conversation, decide whether you need this friendship in principle. Selfless friendship is almost as much a myth as selfless love. After all, you can receive from a friend not only values and services, but also mood, ambition, confidence. Friendship of the "development guide" type is very productive. The most attentive and stimulating are "paid friends" - coaches. They help a person achieve their goals, based on competence in a certain area and psychological preparation.

Constructive approach

True friends are people who can focus on someone else's problem and look for constructive solutions. They give goodtips that can really help. If the person next to you really cares about you, they will give you careful, thoughtful advice that takes into account many factors. If there are people of this type around you, consider yourself very lucky.

Real friends are those who complete you. They can be very different and very different from you, but it is the difference in approaches that will allow you to solve complex problems “one left” if you set to work together. Just if you want to find good friends, "turn off" the calculator in your head and learn to be independent. A strong person needs communication not for the opportunity to parasitize, but for rich leisure and bright personal growth. Learn to be friends - and share your strength with others.