How to ask for forgiveness from other people

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

We are all imperfect and make mistakes at some point and we have to apologize for them. Oddly enough, this particular moment in a relationship turns out to be one of the most difficult for most people on our planet. After all, it is so difficult to find the right words, to explain that in fact you did not want such a development of events and such an outcome. Also, shame sometimes gets in the way. It is a normal feeling when a person is ashamed of something.

But when this shame prevents us from apologizing for what we have done, it already brings big problems. How to deal with this? And in general, how to ask for forgiveness so that you are forgiven after all? People have come up with enough ways to apologize. So let's look at some of them. It is possible that it is among them that you will find the way that is most suitable for you in order to ask someone for forgiveness in your own words.

To whom did you offend?

This is very important. After all, you won’t apologize to your mother like thatjust like in front of your own girlfriend. You probably understand the reason. There is no single pattern or rule for how to ask for forgiveness in order to still receive it. And if there are any methods, then you cannot apply them to any of the people, because the relationship with them and your social roles can be different. It plays a big role.

Get ready and set yourself up

If you have already outlined any "scenario" of how you will ask for forgiveness, then think it over. Run a "sketch" in your head where you are already doing this scenario. Think about how your interlocutor might react to your words. Don't assume that your way of apologizing is always perfect, even if you're already 100% sure of it. You always need to be prepared for the worst and keep in your pocket a couple of arguments that can remove the accusations against you that suddenly fell from the lips of your interlocutor.

Stay on script

Don't forget that you are asking for forgiveness. There is no other way back. So don't fall for it. If you are still accused of something, then it is already useless to argue and defend your case. Haven't you already convinced yourself before that that it is impossible to resolve the conflict in this way? Moreover, if you yourself understand that you really were guilty (since you decided to ask for forgiveness), then why are you still defending your innocence? This will not fix anything, and if so, why would you re-ignite this conflict? Of course, you can explain why you did what you did, if it isagain will not entail the continuation of the not yet forgotten quarrel. Please note that this is not an excuse, you are simply explaining what you did.

How to ask for forgiveness from a nice lady

Yes, yes, we are talking about your girlfriend. How to apologize to a girl?

• It all depends on how much you messed up. Sometimes you can make up quickly by making eyes like a cat from Shrek, and sometimes … Sometimes flowers and sweets can help you. Just do not forget that if you are still not going to be forgiven, then these flowers may be with you … in some places. Keep this in mind and choose roses that have fewer thorns, or choose a different kind of flowers altogether.
• Always remember that "the best defense is an attack" in the case of a girl will not work. Do not use the phrases "and you …", "and yourself …" and others. Otherwise, you will not see forgiveness in this life, like your own ears.
• Show how you feel guilty. If you sit like an emotionless stump, no one will believe you. In this case, the girl will decide that you are just waiting for the moment when she calms down. And if so, then, believe me, she will never calm down.
• To effectively apologize to the girl you love, remember what else she loves. If she likes the inscriptions under the windows, take chalk and paint, run under the window. If she prefers a more creative apology, then think and reflect along those lines.
• Be prepared for questions:"Why did you do that? Why?!" Do you want to know which answer will be the most effective in this case? "Because I'm a fool! Because I'm stupid, forgive me…" and further on prepared (thought out in advance) text.

Show your remorse

The first rule of how to ask for forgiveness is to show with your whole appearance that you are aware of your guilt. Don't forget to tell the person you're apologizing to. Oh yes, if your opponent is a female, then expect to be asked to explain what you are guilty of. Accordingly, for this you need to reflect on your guilt, if you still have not understood anything. If you still don’t understand anything and don’t really realize your guilt, then guess what your opponent blames you for, and finally say what he so wants to hear.

WHAT to say?

Ask for forgiveness is best in your own words. It's much easier this way, and you'll look much more believable than going through all the actionable phrases from the various movies you've ever watched.

Poetry runs to your aid

Poems helped a person in any life situation. Thus, you can ask for forgiveness in verse. True, this method is again only suitable for females. Poems may appeal to your girlfriend, mother, sister, aunt and, in extreme cases, your boss, unless, of course, this is a female representative. But if you try to read poetryto his father, trying to apologize in this way, few people know what can come of all this. But there is an assumption that your original goals in this case will no longer be realized. Write poetry or read poetry from other poets. But read with feeling, with sense, with arrangement! This is only if you are a son. It's different with daughters. Daughters can write or read forgiveness poems to anyone.

Get a pen and paper and sit down to write a letter…

A few years ago, letters in our country were more common than today. But you can try to apologize with a letter. Then you have the opportunity to write the text in a relaxed atmosphere, which means that you can say everything that you plan to say without forgetting anything because of your excitement. This method is perfect for those who find it difficult to ask for forgiveness. If you want to see the person's reaction to your apology, then just walk up to him with a letter outstretched in your hands. Then you will have the opportunity to watch how your opponent reads your letter. If, on the contrary, you are afraid of his (or her) reaction, then quietly throw the letter into the person’s things, but it’s best to make sure that your letter has been noticed and is going to be read. Otherwise, all your work may be pointlessly lost.

That's about all there is to say about how to ask for forgiveness. The main thing is not to stir up a new conflict in the process of reconciliation. After all, you have already begun to ask for forgiveness, and if again suddenly with noIf you start defending your position for no reason, it will lead to nothing. And also speak sincerely, otherwise the person from whom you ask for forgiveness will understand that all this does not really matter to you. In this case, you will never be able to make up.

Good luck getting forgiveness!