What to do to make the man you love stay loving?

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Great if you have a beloved man. But how to keep that riot of feelings that was at first, for many years?

Be not only loved but also a friend

Try to create an atmosphere of complete trust in your relationship. Make it so that the man you love can just be himself around you so he doesn't have to seem strong and all-powerful. One way or another, he will be weak in some way. But the difference is that if you allow him to show this weakness, he will trust you more. He will share with you his thoughts, plans, fears and doubts, without fear of condemnation and contempt. If you show that you need an ideal man without flaws, his weaknesses will still not go anywhere. It's just that he will carefully hide them, not devoting you to his thoughts and feelings.

If you think that the man you love has done wrong, turn on your friend. Imagine that your sweetheart is just your good friend. How would you behave in such a situation? Usually men do not need advice too much, they tend to solve all problems on their own. Just show support. You can say something like: "Yes, of course, you were not quite right. But what has been done cannot be redone. Nowlet's build on what we have now. Either way, I'm on your side. Don't worry, we'll handle this situation. You are a strong / wise / … person. Everything will be fine." If you "nag" the sweetheart, it will not change anything. If a man understands that he was mistaken, he will scold himself for wrong actions without you. No need to add fuel to the fire and put pressure on his self-esteem. Be Let your favorite guy know that he is loved and appreciated with all his flaws.

Don't be "mommy"

The maternal instinct is in us, but you should not bring down your unspent love on a man. He is an adult and independent person, let him remain so. If you become overprotective of a sweetheart, he may soon, as they say, "sit on his neck and hang his legs down." Or he will get tired of your overprotectiveness and rebel against you. Both options are not suitable for us. Let your beloved man make decisions on his own and be responsible for their consequences. Even if you see that his actions will lead to a sad outcome, do not insist. Express your own opinion and leave him the freedom of choice. Otherwise, instead of a support, you will get another child. And a man is not capable of vivid feelings for a woman who behaves like a mother.

Turn on the feelings to the fullest

Let yourself love! Love yourself and give affection, care and passion to your loved one. Don't let your relationship turn into "sluggish schizophrenia."Let you have fun, joint hobbies, adventures. Don't let life "sour"! Experiment!

Also don't forget about all sorts of "goodies". For example, write him tender or passionate SMS when you are not around. You can come up with some original personal gift for your beloved man. Create your own personal traditions - for example, drink coffee in the morning and talk about something. You create your own life! Work on it.