Children do "it" - how to behave as an adult?

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-08 23:38

Preschool children often have common pathological habits, such as sucking toys, fingers, biting nails, masturbation (masturbation). A situation may arise when a parent finds a child playing with his genitals. The first reaction is shock, sometimes a desire to punish misbehavior. But after the numbness passes, you should not scream and slap the child on the hands, you should calmly deal with this issue and understand how to behave and what to do when the children are doing "this".

Masturbation in a small child. What to do?

You have a wonderful baby, and one day there comes a moment when you notice that the child is touching or playing with his genitals. The question arises: what is it? Children's curiosity, which is quite natural in the development of a baby, or a pathological habit - masturbation (masturbation)? And can kids do "it"?

Problem Statement

Often induring the developmental period, the baby becomes interested in the study of the male and female body. Children examine the naked bodies of peers and adults, at the same time, it is no less interesting for them to study the sensations of their own bodies. Toddlers explore their genitals by playing, scratching, teasing or touching them. In this situation, there is nothing to worry about, the cognitive process is underway. But if at the same time the child experiences positive emotions that become dominant for him, then the stimulation of the genital organs becomes permanent.

Is it possible to do "this" children?

At 2-3 years old, it is still too early to talk about masturbation with a baby, as he does not understand what masturbation is, does not know that touching himself and others in intimate places is considered indecent. Onanism is a way of self-satisfaction, in which emotional discharge occurs. Often "this" happens before going to bed in a secluded place. If masturbation occurs regularly, then it becomes a pathological habit. If a child openly asks questions about the structure of the body, the difference between a man and a woman, or a girl and a woman, then one should behave tactfully and answer children's questions, and not be ashamed of them. This is a natural interest and a new step in the development of the psyche and knowledge of the surrounding world. Usually, interest begins between the ages of 3 and 6, then fades until adolescence.

Preconditions for child masturbation

Physiological - due to active temperament, a discharge from mental stress is necessary.

Psychological –the child has a feeling of uselessness, he considers himself lonely, unloved, there is a lack of parental love and attention.

Clinical - poor sleep and long falling asleep lead to the need for emotional discharge.

Also, other phenomena can become the causes of onanism:

• isolation from children's society;
• high excitability and emotionality in a child;
• cold mother or impulsive father;
• physical punishment;
• if the gender of the child did not meet parental expectations.

What to do?

So, little kids do this quite often. If you caught a child masturbating, then, first of all, you should not faint, scold your child or engage in assault. You should show restraint and maximum tact.

If the child is small, then try to calmly switch his attention to another activity. If this is a child of school age, then calm behavior is also necessary. When he is able to listen to you, you should discuss the current situation, but in no case should he be scolded and intimidated. Such behavior on the part of parents can only aggravate the situation. Just tell yourself it's okay if kids do "it". At school, perhaps, a psychologist will talk to them, but at home, communicate with your child, do not "abandon" him.

What needs to be doneso that masturbation does not become a pathological habit?

First of all, it is necessary to find out the cause of onanism. You should not attach great importance to this and intimidate the baby with the terrible consequences of a bad habit. Most often, threats and intimidation cripple the child's psyche and break the future.

You don't even have to discuss an unpleasant topic, just change the methods of education. Often children do this from a lack of attention and when parents leave it to themselves. Praise your baby more often, encourage the expression of feelings and emotions, provide him with a sufficient amount of physical activity. Give your child freedom of choice, communicate with him on free topics as often as possible, avoid lectures and moralizing, teach him to respond correctly to the appearance of negative emotions. Treat diseases related to urology or gynecology in time.

It is also necessary to monitor the condition of the clothes worn by the child. Things should be clean and comfortable. Do not humiliate the child by discussing the topic of masturbation in front of strangers, do not arrange interrogations and examinations. Help your child find hobbies, new activities, so that he can keep himself busy while being alone.

We must not forget that masturbation is a way to get rid of negative emotions. If you eliminate the source of tension, then the need for a surge of emotions will disappear. If the pathological habit does not go away before the age of 10, it is necessary to turn to specialists, since the cause of onanism at this age can be caused by the influence of people with mental disorders.violations.

Increased hypersexuality of a child or early psychosexual development can cause onanism. Many children do this because they cannot cope with such manifestations of early development on their own. Intimidation in this situation is useless. The child needs your help and understanding. You must know that early psychosexual development can and should be treated, otherwise masturbation will become fixed later, which can cause serious mental disorders in the child.

In closing

The desire of parents to eliminate the external attributes of the problem will not solve the cause of the appearance of a pathological habit. For prevention, it is necessary to normalize intra-family relations, interaction with the child, and establish soft trusting relationships with him. Satisfy the emotional needs of the child for care and affection, regularly organize recreational physical activities, and promote the development of the child's creativity. And then the problem of children doing "it" will disappear by itself!