Why do men lie to women?

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Be realistic: don't tell the truth.

So spoke Stanislav Jerzy Lec, a famous poet and satirist, author of the book "Uncombed Thoughts in Translation". And just a man who probably lied to his woman in the same way as the most ordinary male representative…

After all, you, too, once faced a man's lies? Alas, every woman is familiar with this unpleasant sensation and its aftertaste, which remains after a lie. According to statistics, 87% of people cheat every day. But today we will talk only about the strong half of humanity. Why do men lie? Consider below.

"Household" lies

She, the man is sure, is only for good. Imagine the situation: the husband came home from work, the wife asks him to take out the trash, but he, referring to urgent work at the computer, goes to play Dota. The situation for the wife is unpleasant, if she knew the truth, but quite tolerable - she herself will endure. In the same way, men lie about the amount of their salary, the amount of alcohol they drink, and other small things. Such lies do little harm to the couple.

The reason for it is simple - elementary fear. A man is afraid of a scandal that will suithis significant other, having learned that he actually did not stay at the office, but went to the bathhouse with friends. A little lie saves the nerves of both spouses and saves them from chronic misunderstandings. Usually, the roots of the fear of conflict go back to childhood, when the boy was forced to lie to his parents so that he would not be punished for his misconduct. After all, if a child is not given the right to make a mistake, he is forced to get out and lie. And this need accompanies him all his life.

Treason

The second reason why a man lies to his woman is a betrayal that he does not want to admit. Some representatives of the stronger sex are sure that several women are needed for happiness. They systematically cheat on their wives and are forced to constantly lie to them. Among the "symptoms" indicating the presence of a mistress, cooling off towards a spouse in intimate life, sudden changes in the daily routine, loss of interest in family affairs. Luckily, only 21% of the 87% of lying men resort to lying because of cheating.

Such men most often doubt their male viability and assert themselves at the expense of numerous mistresses. Or it is vital for them to change the object of their adoration so that their life does not start to seem like a routine.

The desire to appear better

Why does a man lie to a woman for no apparent reason? Maybe he just wants to put himself in the best light. This phenomenon is typical for a nascent relationship, when a gentleman wants to impress a lady. What exactly will it be about?lie, it's hard to say. It all depends on his imagination. However, most often men exaggerate their net worth, victories on the personal front. They are sure that this will make them more significant in the eyes of the chosen one.

The reason for this behavior is a tendency to narcissism, which is a kind of mental disorder. The narcissist dreams of being worshiped by a woman, so he lies, lies, and lies again. Although within reasonable limits, this lie is not so terrible.

The reasons are hidden in education again. There are only two options: either the mother annoyed her son with excessive guardianship, or the parents did not participate in his upbringing at all.

Lies for the woman herself

Many women have a tendency to ask their partner questions about their appearance. And if a man gives the wrong answer, it is fraught with consequences. Questions like "Am I prettier than Monica Bellucci?", "Have I gained weight?", "Does this hair color suit me?" by definition have only one correct answer. And even if he believes that his woman is somewhat inferior to Monica Bellucci and has gained a hundred grams, he will not dare to voice his opinion.

Besides, many men prefer to lie on their own initiative. They often make thoughtless compliments, cliched and banal, but always incredibly pleasant for a woman.

False lies

Is it possible to lie for good? Only if the loved one deliberately lied to you in order to make a pleasant surprise. A woman will not only forgive such a deception, she will not consider it a lie.

Pathological Liar

Why does a man lie all the time? Maybe he's just a pathological liar. Do you remember the Jim Carrey movie "Liar"? The hero lied to everyone: his ex-wife, son, boss, employees, and even his secretary. This is one of the most striking examples of the pathological liar in American cinema.

They usually lie for personal gain or out of boredom. They like to embellish the events of their lives. To some extent, they themselves believe what they say. Therefore, it is almost impossible to catch him cheating. It is very difficult to build a relationship with such a person.

When does the risk of male lies increase?

Why does a man lie, although this has not been observed before? The main reasons are as follows.

1. He got bored in relationships. He feels the need to take a break from them in another company. But a woman would never pat him on the head for such a confession. Understanding this, your man will never dare to admit that he went with friends to a bar to drink beer. Even though you thought your mom had it. Entertainment in the company of another woman can also be included in this item.
2. He is trying to attract the attention of his beloved. Especially if he feels that her attitude towards him is cooling.
3. Quarrelations in relationships and constant scandals initiated by the wife explain why a man lies to a woman. Psychologists say that this is how he tries to avoid a quarrel.

How to deal with male lies?

Now that we figured out why menlie to girls, consider whether it is possible to wean a loved one from the habit of lying. It is important to determine to whom he is lying: only to his wife or to all friends and acquaintances. In the second case, practically nothing can be done. This habit is formed in a boy at an early age and often cannot be corrected. However, psychologists advise why a man lies through a word is not worth figuring out - he himself will not be able to explain his motives to you. Try to respond to every lie. For example, forget to cook dinner if you catch him lying. But when he starts telling the truth, encourage him - treat him with something delicious, give him a massage, etc.

However, when a man lies only to his wife or beloved, this indicates the presence of problems in the relationship. And they can be solved if the couple finds the strength to talk about it. Call your partner for a frank conversation. Perhaps he is afraid of scandals, afraid of your misunderstanding. And if you learn not to react to some of his offense with excessive emotionality, perhaps he will begin to trust you more, talk about his problems and mistakes without fear of judgment. This will take your relationship to a new, deeper level.

In closing

Every man once lied to his woman. And if this is not a lie of a universal scale, it can be understood and forgiven. But if he lies systematically and for no apparent reason, you will have to take decisive action. Otherwise, you will doubt every word of your loved one for the rest of your life.