Adolescent violence: causes and prevention. Difficult teenager

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

The history of mankind is full of terrible events. Torture, wars, violence against children and women, neglect of the elderly - these are just a few examples of the cruelty that accompanies the development of any society. People pay great attention to overcoming aggressiveness, considering it one of the most important social problems. So, all kinds of psychosocial technologies are being created, which are aimed at preventing aggressiveness in people. In our country, there is also the problem of teenage cruelty. Prevention of aggressiveness in children is an objective necessity.

As the weakest and least protected members of society, babies are the first victims of mistreatment in various institutions, the family. After a short period of time, they pay the society for it with a vengeance. In this article, we will learn what teenage cruelty is and how it can be corrected.

Cult of Malice

There are a huge number of facts that confirm that even in perfectly normal families, angry children sometimes grow up. Therefore, family well-being does not guarantee that the child, if necessary, will lend a helping hand to the needy. The cruelty of teenagers has mostly deeper causes. Often it arises due to school upbringing. Not every teacher today will go to find out the true cause of the conflict between students in his class.

A child's character begins to appear in early childhood. It is easy for a class teacher to identify which of the students is the leader, who is the “whipping boy”, and who often shows aggression towards other people. The heated atmosphere in the classroom should not be ignored.

The sad results of how the persecution of a student by his classmates can end are known. You can't pretend like nothing happened. It is possible even to save the life of a child with timely intervention. Many teenagers, feeling like outcasts, are on the verge of suicide. Cruel children begin to poison the child, which is absolutely unacceptable. This is an out of the ordinary situation. It is necessary to apply all pedagogical skills in order to correct this situation.

When a child sees that no one pays attention to abuse, bullying becomes even more terrible. It is necessary to gather the class as often as possible for an explanatory conversation, and also try to find common ground and interests. Often such control gives positive results.

Specificity and reasons for the manifestation of aggressiveness

The child's personality is formed in the environment around him, and noton one's own. The role of small groups is especially important in this, where a difficult teenager interacts with other people. First of all, it concerns the family. Various authors identify types of dysfunctional families in which the cruelty of teenage girls (and boys too) is manifested. These classifications complement, not contradict, sometimes repeating each other.

Combination of factors

It is worth noting that the combination of adverse psychological, biological, family and other social factors distorts the lifestyle of children. For them, a violation of emotional relations with other people becomes characteristic. They fall under the great influence of a group of leaders, often forming asocial life values. Adolescent lifestyle, culture, environment, social circle and style contribute to the development of deviant behavior.

The negative microclimate in different families causes the appearance of rudeness, alienation, hostility of some teenagers, as well as the desire to do everything against the will of the elders, out of spite. This creates the prerequisites for the emergence of demonstrative disobedience, destructive actions and aggressiveness.

Family

Child psychologists and specialists around the world are trying to find out the reasons for the increased aggression that teenage girls and boys are now exposed to. They come to the conclusion that it is in the family that, first of all, there are processes that contribute to the formation of the child's anger. Oddly enough, it is mainly caused by parental blind love.

If,for example, parents take care and protect their child, while not seeing a person in him and not appreciating his individuality, a desire arises in his soul to prove and show that he is able to do something in his own way and himself. And along this path, teenage girls and boys often commit aggressive acts towards the people around them. In order to avoid this situation, the child needs to be given the right to choose, to give him personal space, while not losing control.

No bans

The second dangerous product of parental blind love is permissiveness, which no arguments can justify. The child has a sense of impunity. Ignoring misdeeds and fulfilling any whims will not help build normal relationships, as well as establish a connection with other children. A little later, this will cause destructive and aggressive behavior, and the child will be called a “difficult teenager.”

Friends

Almost all children perceive peer criticism more sensitively than the arguments of their parents. The problem of “bad company” always remains acute - an aggressive and impudent child is able to set an example and tone of behavior for a group of children, while the desire to match his style and internal dissonance only exacerbate the cruelty of adolescents.

The way out of this situation will be the gradual development of new interests and values: it is necessary to “probe” what exactly interests the child - sports, dancing, creativity, etc. He will be able to devote more time to hobbies, therewill make other friends, in which he should only be encouraged.

School

Almost every student has faced at least once with the most common difficulties - misunderstanding of teachers or rejection by classmates. A child, and even more so a beginner, thus, can become an object of bullying and an outcast from other students for various reasons - he can be an adherent of a different religion, belong to a different nationality, be stupid, smart, with peculiar appearance. The cruelty of teenagers knows no bounds, they can unfairly treat their peers just because of their difference from everyone else.

On the same occasion, they may be attacked by some of the teachers. The scandalous sensational film "School" by Valeria Gai Germanika just tells about the difficulties of today's institutions of secondary education.

Internet, television

The cruelty of teenagers has increased to frightening proportions in the XX-XXI centuries. Experts see the reason for this in the availability and spread of the Internet and television. The most exciting and popular films necessarily contain scenes of violence that strongly affect the unformed psyche of children. Various computer games involve killing and fighting to win. Videos that show depravity, irresponsibility and rudeness are freely available on the Internet.

Our children got bored with "just" fighting - it is necessary to take it off onphone, and then upload the video to the network. What to do with it? To switch the attention of the child to other, constructive activities, as well as to give arguments in defense of the fact that cruelty and aggressiveness are not “cool” at all.

Difficult Teen: Revealing

Prevention of cruelty in adolescence begins with the identification of the emotional and mental state of each child by questioning students. Using this procedure, you can find out how often a teenager has to deal with unfair or cruel treatment of himself, and other questions.

Child victim

To identify this problem, you need to carefully monitor the behavior of a teenager when he comes from school. You should pay attention to minor, slightest changes in his usual behavior. Every mother will see if suddenly a child's desire to go to school has disappeared, that from time to time he comes in torn things, his appetite has disappeared. These are signs of a problem. You should have a heart to heart talk with him. Of course, it will be very difficult to bring him to such a conversation. Not every family has a trusting relationship. You should show your daughter or son from an early age that parents are the best and most reliable friends.

When a child is in conflict with peers, it will be much easier to find a way out together. If he does not want to share, you must try to show goodwill and caution. Information should not be pressed under pressure. Show him that you are on his side completely and completely. Probably, in this case, he will consider it necessary to ask for help,open up.

The child in this case fears that he will only aggravate his difficult situation with such revelations with loved ones. He believes that the desire to tell everything to parents is an indicator of a weak character. You should convince him that this is not so.

Together you can choose an adequate solution, find the right way out of the current conflict. Do not scoff at children's problems, stating that this is all nonsense. Such an attitude can hurt a vulnerable young soul.

News sites have recently been literally overflowing with various materials about cases of increased aggression in adolescents. At the same time, the abundance of computer games with various elements of violence and reprisals is not reflected in the best way on the child's psyche. A large number of teenagers after being beaten by classmates tried to commit suicide. In addition, such scenes, as mentioned above, are filmed on camera and laid out for everyone to see on the Internet.

How to avoid aggression?

Teenage and child abuse has already become a certain social phenomenon. At the present moment, the correction of the aggressive behavior of adolescents involves the involvement of all public institutions. At the same time, you need to start with the family, continue in kindergarten and school, then attract sections and circles, and finish with universities and work teams.

It is worth noting that violence with the use of special cruelty is a widely encountered concept in criminal law. Consequently, adolescents, especially those who have reached the age of criminalresponsibility, for their misdeeds can be punished.

But the majority of violent teenagers are not sociopaths and sadists, which means that they are able to improve even without medical and correctional institutions. They need the support and help of adults, parents and teachers first of all, then mentors and coaches, conscious senior comrades.

Of course, not the entire group of those who committed violence against other children should be seriously punished, but only their leader, especially if he is an obvious sociopath or sadist.

With other children and their parents, it is necessary to conduct preventive serious conversations, and also take control by the authorities.

In addition, to improve the emotional and psychological family climate, to help adolescents and children overcome psychological internal problems, it would be good to take a course of family consultations with an experienced psychologist.

And finally…

Teenagers need the guidance of an adult who must have authority, charisma, inner strength. In archaic societies, it was not for nothing that the brightest, most interesting people were always put forward for the role of mentors. But now the pedagogical sphere does not always cope with this task. Fortunately, there are still club leaders, coaches, teachers who have the qualities of a mentor, only there are fewer of them.

It's worth noting that aggression is not necessarily a bad thing. It gives the opportunity to defend their territory, offspring, fight for life, achieve goals, overcome difficulties. When aggressionfunctions normally, it works like water turning the millstones of life.