Crisis of three years - is it good or bad?

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

The crisis of three years is a completely natural phenomenon that every child faces. After all, this is a kind of transitional period when early development ends. Therefore, do not be afraid and worry about this - parents only need to know how to behave correctly and what to expect from their own baby.

The crisis of three years in a child: when does it begin?

The crisis of 3 years is a conditional psychological concept. It is used to characterize the emotional and mental transition of a child. At this stage, the baby begins to actively change and explore the people around him, the world and, first of all, himself. It is from this moment that active development will begin - your child learns to build relationships and make independent decisions.

In fact, there is no exact age at which such changes begin. As a rule, this period begins in the second half of the third year or the first half of the fourth year of a child's life. It should be noted that the crisis of three years is accompanied by significant changes inbaby's behavior. Parents need to be prepared for change.

The crisis of three years in children and its main symptoms

The period of transition to preschool age is accompanied by very characteristic signs. In most cases, parents are very worried that the child is simply out of control and almost does not look like himself.

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  The most striking "symptom" of the crisis is stubbornness. The kid becomes simply unbearable. He wants to wear boots in the heat, refuses to eat his favorite foods, demands a new toy, and so on. It is stubbornness that becomes the main system of the child's behavior.

• Negativism is another very characteristic feature. Your child suddenly begins to make decisions on his own. And any advice from parents is perceived with hostility. Sometimes the baby refuses to do something, not because he does not want to, but because the offer did not come from him.
• Despotism is another essential sign of growing up. The child literally demands from the people around him to do what he wants.
• In most cases, the crisis of three years is accompanied by obstinacy and disobedience. The child not only refuses to do what his parents tell him, he does not even try to listen to them.
• Baby getting headstrong. He goes to his goal at almost any cost. And in case of failure, he arranges scandals and real tantrums.
• At the same time, the so-called devaluation of communication with parents occurs. For the first time, a child can call mom and dad, tell themsomething offensive, etc.

Indeed, during this period the baby is in a state of conflict, not only with his parents, but with the whole world around him.

The crisis of three years for a baby: how to build relationships?

Many parents are lost and do not know how to behave in a period of such active changes. But here you need to be very clear about the model of behavior. To begin with, understand that now your child already considers himself an adult and demands that his opinion be taken into account. Treat it accordingly. Expand his responsibilities, let him learn to do things on his own, treat him as your equal.

On the other hand, you should not indulge the baby in everything and always - you need a clear balance. Yes, sometimes you can give in and do what your child wants. But if you always do this, you will simply lose his respect. It is very important that all family members develop a similar system of behavior. If dad allows something, and mom forbids it, then the child will quickly learn to use this situation.

And, of course, remember that the crisis of three years is a short period that will end sooner or later. And how smoothly and quickly the process of growing up will happen depends largely on those around you.