Three years of marriage: gifts and congratulations

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Many people ask questions when they receive an invitation to a three-year wedding - what is it like, what to give, are there traditions and customs, are special congratulations required?

Every marriage anniversary is celebrated, and all such celebrations have their own traditions, customs and, of course, a name.

What is this date?

Three years of marriage is a leather date.

In those days when the institution of marriage was strengthened, the traditions of wedding anniversaries began to be laid, as well as their names. Names of anniversaries were formed depending on the type of gifts. Give families what they need the most. It is the type of things and materials needed by a medieval family that is responsible for which year - which wedding. Three years of living together are called "leather" because by this time the economy of the young was getting stronger.

The second horse appeared, the cow brought offspring and so on. All this needed leather goods - harness, hanging straps and much more. Leather dressing and tailoring of things needed in the household were quite expensive. By this time, wearable things were already worn out,e.g. shrouds.

Of course, among the gifts for families, things they needed, that is, made of leather, prevailed. Hence the name, the same for each culture. Three years of wedding - "leather" among the Slavs, and in Western Europe, and in the East, and in Asia.

Are there traditions?

Before celebrating an anniversary, a married couple was instructed to:

• pay off all debt obligations;
• give away unnecessary things and dishes to other people;
• put on new clothes in the morning and only use unused items like towels.

As for those invited to the celebration, traditionally they should present the couple with leather goods, and in congratulatory speeches emphasize the strength of the union.

The tradition of celebrating this date in the villages of the Caucasus is curious. In table speeches, it is customary to compare three years of life with young wine and red meat. Whatever wedding was played years ago, it is believed that by the time of three years, mutual understanding, trust and respect were found in the marriage. But it is not aged like a three-year-old wine, and there are still many difficulties ahead. It is still difficult for spouses to find unity and balance in the family, just as it is difficult to chew red meat that is not completely fried. But besides this, red meat with blood also emphasizes the freshness of marriage, the relationship between spouses.

Caucasian philosophy related to the understanding of the three-year term of married life can be taken into account when choosing gifts and composing congratulations.

Eatsymbolism?

Symbols are available for every holiday, and three years of weddings are no exception. In addition to leather, the attributes of this anniversary are:

• rye - both spikelets and baked bread and grains;
• red apples;
• young wine;
• meat.

Symbols can be used in the design of gifts and congratulatory speeches. This will allow you to show originality and not get hung up on non-leather topics.

What to give?

Traditional gifts for a three-year wedding are leather items. As a rule, spouses are presented with various accessories for the home, wallets, souvenirs and other things that shop windows offer.

Most people just don't know what to present as a present chosen according to the theme, except for belts, backpacks, bags or gloves. However, you should not approach the choice of a gift in a stereotyped way. The present may well be both original and traditional.

You can present:

• leather-bound books;
• family picnic sets with matching designs;
• balls;
• blinds, screens and other items for the home that meet the theme;
• serving items;
• frame vases, lined vases and more.

For example, a small screen, which uses not silk fabric or paper, but leather, is an incredibly original gift that fully meets all traditions. You can also present a large family suitcase.

The main thing when choosinggift - the naturalness of the product. If leather substitutes are used, then such a thing is not suitable for a present, no matter how wonderful it looks.

Fairly budgetary, but at the same time very unusual, serving items and decor will become a gift. For example, a small terracotta table vase decorated with leather stripes is a wonderful and not very expensive option. Table coasters for coffee cups, trays with leather elements are also quite economical, but they look interesting and original.

There are incredibly many options for presents, and if nothing comes to mind, then it makes sense to just go shopping selling items for home and family.

What to consider when choosing a gift?

In addition to the theme of the date and symbols of the holiday, when choosing a present, you need to be guided by a number of nuances that the invitees often forget about or simply do not attach importance to them.

You need to take into account the following nuances:

• wedding anniversary is a holiday for the whole family, not a specific person;
• gift must be for general use;
• if spouses have children, they should also be taken into account when choosing gifts.

That is, things like a wallet, shoes or a trouser belt cannot be given. Such a present is addressed to one person, not a family. Even if you buy four belts (one for spouses and children), then this is wrong, because it separatesfamily members, and gifts should emphasize unity.

Who can donate personal items?

Personal, addressed to only one of the spouses, presents can only be given by relatives. But they also carry a "family" meaning.

For example, parents or relatives of a man can present a wallet to a woman. The meaning of the gift is the saving of earned money, reasonable planning of the family budget, prudent housekeeping. However, this is not the best gift option. It was believed that if the husband's relatives, and especially his mother, present a wallet to his wife, then they allude to her extravagance, inability to manage the house and lack of a reasonable approach to spending.

Wife's relatives can present something to a man. Previously, in Russia they gave expensive "weekend" leather shoes. If they presented boots for everyday wear, then this was considered a hint that the man was “washing his feet in search of a job”, that is, he was not able to support his family at the proper level.

What to consider in a congratulation?

The main thing in a congratulatory speech and all toasts at such a celebration is an appeal to both spouses, a mention of the family as a whole. That is, it is impossible to say congratulations on the wishes of beauty and patience to a woman, wisdom and he alth to a man separately. This is not customary wedding anniversary etiquette.

The texts themselves can be spoken in any genre, both in poetry and prose. Of course, parables, that is, toasts and congratulations in the Caucasian language, are in the greatest demand.style. Those who plan to say just such congratulations should rehearse the speech, paying attention to its duration. The toast should not last more than three or four minutes, no matter where the anniversary is celebrated and how many guests have gathered.

Do you need postcards?

A postcard is an essential attribute of a presentation. It is required and, of course, must correspond to the theme of the date being celebrated. If the meaning of a postcard attached to a gift at a small family home holiday is not obvious, then at a celebration attended by a large number of guests, for example, twenty people, there are no questions about its necessity.

A postcard must be chosen, not only guided by the theme of the celebration, but also taking into account the present itself. For example, intricate leather crafts should be accompanied by the simplest possible postcard. And here is a laconic, devoid of decor family suitcase - a colorful, handmade postcard filled with details.

That is, the card not only accompanies the gift, but also complements it, like the packaging.

What to write on a postcard?

Written in postcards is not much different from what is said out loud. Main text requirements:

• brief;
• appeal to spouses;
• mention date;
• the presence of congratulations and wishes;
• signature.

If the prose genre is usually more advantageous when pronouncing toasts, then short poems look more interesting in postcards.

Example of a congratulatory verse text:

Three years together have flown by so quickly…

Wedding glasses recently clinked, And now - three years together, With what you from the heart and congratulations.

And let life be ahead, like a song.

Not far off - and a hundred years of marriage, Leather day is the most important of all!

Happiness and joy, laughter, prosperity, And many years to be the envy of everyone.

How to congratulate at the table?

Congratulations said at the table for three wedding years usually sound like a prose parable, that is, in the Caucasian style.

However, in preparation for the celebration, you should have in stock a few toasts in other genres. A situation may arise in which the majority of those invited will begin to tell Caucasian parables or ballads.

The following points are important in a congratulatory speech:

• duration no more than three or four minutes;
• targeting the whole family;
• wishes;
• a call to raise glasses.

You should not use ready-made toasts or congratulations, as there is always a risk that one of the guests also liked this option. However, you can take them as a basis and adjust the content for a specific celebration.