Spouses are a family that should be a fortress for children and for themselves

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Modern society is not far from the primitive communal system. No matter how much we want to seem more developed and adapted to life in this world, we still remain people who are driven by the same emotions, fears, experiences and reflexes. The difference is only in the outer shell and the presence of more knowledge, scientific facts. But in fact, we remained the same primitive people who hunted the mammoth and huddled in flocks.

Many of you will consider it your duty to refute such an opinion, considering yourself a much more reasonable being. But look around, only the "picture" has changed. We still "get the mammoth" by visiting work every day. For a "skin" we can wear, we go to the mall, use a firearm instead of a spear, and still heat the food on the fire. There is no escape from creating a family. Of course, primitive man knew little about the psychology of marriage, but even then he understood the need to find and save a couple. Despite the above similarities, we have become much smarter, and therefore the institution of marriage must be protected and improved. Why do many people forget about this, destroying their family and the lives of loved ones?

Who are spouses?

Spouses are husband and wife, that is, people who are married. There is no huge difference in how to call these people, except that “spouses” is a more official name, but “husband”, “wife” is everyday. At the state level, this is a man and a woman who legalized their relationship by registering them in the registry office. However, often a husband, wife (husband, spouse) after many years of living together remember only the legal side of their marital relationship. And it's sad. After all, spouses are not just people who have a piece of paper with attached obligations and inalienable rights. First of all, this is a free union that two loving people enter into.

Why do marriages break up? It would seem that the reasons lie on the surface, and every family man, looking at them, will wave his hand and say that he already knows about it. Nevertheless, this will not alert him in any way and will not force him to reconsider his relationship. We invite you to study them more carefully so as not to make the mistakes that people repeat generation after generation.

Lack of understanding

It would seem a rather banal reason and a thing that is often turned a blind eye. Couples in love rarely notice any flaws in each other. Often they do not see that they are completely different people with incompatible views on life and future plans. The phrase "opposites attract" does not work in all cases. It's good when spouses have different interests, hobbies, occupations after all. Thenthere is always something to talk about and share with your chosen one. If one of the spouses is more emotional and the other is calm, this will help resolve most conflicts. But if, for example, she has plans for motherhood immediately after marriage, and he does not consider it necessary to have children until he reaches the top rung of the career ladder, disagreements in such a pair will be quite difficult to resolve. This is just one small example of what can ruin a marriage, and there are just too many cases like this.

Talk about problems

It is very important to think carefully about creating a family and choosing a partner, not to marry at an early age, but to look at each other. If the choice has already been made, try to discuss all the disagreements and find a compromise, this will definitely work out if you value your chosen one. Do not forget to just talk and share your experiences, because the lack of mutual understanding often gives rise to a banal unwillingness to conduct a dialogue. Do not forget that spouses are the closest people to each other. They will always hear.

Children of spouses, spouses of children

There is an opinion that a marriage is incomplete if the spouses do not have children. However, in some cases, the appearance of children can only spoil the relationship between partners. For example, one of the spouses may simply be mentally unprepared for the birth of a child. The times when marriage was concluded at 18, and children were born at 20, otherwise society began to look askance, have passed. In the modern world, each person accepts this weighteddecision himself. Financial well-being can also become another problem. Raising a child is now very expensive, family well-being can "eat", as they say, life. The family (husband, spouse) should be ready for children both morally and financially. Otherwise, the partners may not be able to cope with the flurry of problems that have piled on them. However, it is not only the children of the spouses who can bring discord. Spouses of children also create conflict situations in the family, because it is also important to find a common language with the chosen ones of your children.

Family is a fortress

We did not consider reasons such as cheating or lack of diversity in sexual life, since such problems lie on the surface, and here everything depends directly on your choice, and not on the current situation. In any case, it is important to remember that spouses are people close to each other who should always be support and support. If, for whatever reason, you don't feel this way, you need to seriously consider whether or not the relationship is worth keeping.