A boyfriend's friend shows me signs of attention. How to behave with my boyfriend's friends?

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Meeting a guy's friends is like meeting the parents of your soulmate. That is, the event is terribly responsible, and it is not yet clear whether they are ready to accept you and consider you a close person.

And this is far from being a joke. Things may never come to meeting their parents and other relatives - some live quite far from their home and see their mother and father no more than 1-2 times a year. Whereas it will be necessary to get acquainted with the guy's friends, and they will meticulously evaluate you. And some of them may like the new girl in the company so much that they themselves will try to start a relationship with her and beat her off from a friend. And what do you want to do in this situation?

The role of the new girl in the company

How to behave with a guy's friends? Every girl thinks about this before a party at which she will learn, and ideally, fall in love with her comrades and - oh horror! - your boyfriend's girlfriends. And you also need to like them, because if hostility arises between you, it will depress the guy.

That's why girls choose several standard roles, which thenadhere to:

1. "Princess" is a restrained, soft, polite girl, a little removed from the bustle of the ordinary world. Dear Miss Perfect. One of the good options, but here it's easy to cross the line and turn into the "Snow Queen" - cold, unsmiling and arrogant.
2. "Sexy beauty". She puts on all the most fashionable and beautiful, always with makeup and hair, more often in a dress and high heels. In general, he seeks to say with all his appearance: "Look how lucky my boyfriend is." The mistake is that this image requires serious effort, in addition, there may be a person in the company who “pecks” at your beauty, which will seriously complicate the situation.
3. "Regular" is too polite and shy to show her best side. Therefore, he is more often silent, does not interrupt anyone and keeps his thoughts to himself. Not the best option, as the company will consider you mediocre.
4. "My boyfriend" - the girl tried so hard to please the boyfriend's friends that she became "her own on the board." And now he discusses all personal and sometimes quite intimate things in the company. Your boyfriend will definitely not like this.
5. "Bitch" - the image is created on purpose or obtained involuntarily. The last option is when you try to hide your dislike for the guy's friends (and they can turn out to be far from pleasant people), but it still breaks through.

Friends

"What do I do if I don't like my boyfriend's friend?" - such a question is often asked by girls after meeting the companyboyfriend. In fact, there is no catastrophe in this. You just need to limit your stay next to this person. But only your own, not your loved one.

No need to reduce everything to a conflict of the "either me or him" type. This is often a stalemate in which your loved one will be forced to choose between two close and dear ones.

Typical mistakes of a girl when meeting a guy's comrades: a male look

Sometimes when you meet a guy's best friend, you realize that he rated you extremely low. And later it will affect the opinion of all the people in the boyfriend's company. But what went wrong? Young ladies often make the same mistakes at the first and subsequent meetings:

1. Behave extremely provocatively, on the verge of decency, vulgar. This is such a symbiosis of images of "sexy beauty" and "bitch".
2. Public and deliberate demonstration of your passionate feelings - hugs, kisses, strokes and other "sweet" signs of attention. In a crowded place, you should restrain your emotions.
3. Questions about ex-boyfriends and how much better/worse they are than you. In the company of such girls, they like to troll with stories about how much better all the exes were.
4. Boasting about their achievements - a lot, often and at every meeting.
5. Rude to their boyfriend and humiliate him in public.
6. They don't keep up a conversation, as they constantly correspond with someone on the phone.
7. Openly show their negative attitude towards the company. They can get up and defiantly leave. Or comment on what's going onnegative key.

How to behave with boyfriend's friends

In fact, the surest way to please a guy's best friend and everyone else in the company is to be yourself. Exactly the way you are alone with your loved one, that is, free and uninhibited.

It remains to be seen how often you need to spend time with them. Everything is simple here - if you are the only girl in the company, then such meetings should be very rare. You should not “decorate” the male team with your presence too often: they won’t tell you this in person, but behind your back they will say that you are bothering them.

If the company meets in pairs, then if you wish, you can spend time with them at any opportunity.

How to understand that the company liked you

Often girls are interested in: “What should I do if a guy’s friend shows me signs of attention?” First, make sure that these are really signs of attention, and not just a couple of smiles and friendly support.

Usually, men who are secretly in love with the chosen one of their friend behave like this:

1. Sharply moving away from you and from the company as a whole. But with rare meetings, they cannot contain their joy. As a rule, this indicates that a person has decided not to ruin someone else's happiness.
2. appears in your life more and more often, and tries to choose a moment when the boyfriend is not around.

At the same time, a man in love is actively interested in your life, even through other people, rejoicesmeetings, smiles broadly and looks into your eyes, remembers well any dates and events from your life and generously showers you with compliments.

What to do in this situation

When a guy's friend starts to actively show signs of attention, there is always a very awkward situation. On the one hand, I don’t want to push the boyfriend and his friend together - such a conflict will not lead to anything good. On the other hand, accepting compliments and gifts from a boyfriend's friend is not the best idea.

In this case, the right decision would be to talk frankly with a man in love and explain that his actions are inappropriate and make you feel embarrassed. A smart person will understand and will no longer bother.

“Should I tell my boyfriend that his friend is trying to court me?” - such a question can often be heard from young ladies who find themselves in such an awkward situation for the first time. It’s worth telling a boyfriend if after a frank conversation no changes followed. But preparing for a conversation should be like a court session - with a full bag of strong evidence, backed up by various sources.

That is, if you show a couple of congratulations on a social network, then they may not believe you. It's a shame, but you need to make allowances for the fact that it is still about a friend.

Another way to talk: "Look what N sends me every day. He distracts me constantly. Talk to him". That is, do not talk directly about trying to court, but simply indicate your position and show your boyfriend that you do not like this and this.