Every person dreams of love, especially beautiful people. But it happens that a married man falls in love with a woman. And then many of the fair sex are lost and do not know how to behave properly and what to do in such cases. After all, a married man can also bring happiness to some kind of female fate. Yes, and men have the right to be happy, and marriage can be just a mere formality or a mistake that was made sometime in youth. The love of an unfree man can manifest itself in different ways. And also to pursue different goals. Therefore, a woman should be prepared for the fact that one day she will exclaim: “What should I do, a married man fell in love with me!”
Signs of male love
To understand that a representative of the strong half of humanity is experiencing serious sympathy is sometimes very difficult. It costs morelook at him carefully. There are signs by which it will be possible to determine that a man is showing interest in a woman:
- Often men are very restrained towards the object of their feelings, and sometimes they also show coldness.
- Tries to participate in the life of a woman, helps her.
- Constant "random" encounters.
So it turns out that sometimes a married man himself, fell in love and does not know how to behave, since he is not free. And this means that he must be very careful, to avoid any exposure. Therefore, even providing assistance, he will act indirectly. This happens so that his wife or someone else does not find out about his feelings.
Because of this fear of being discovered, a married man cannot openly ask a woman out on a date, so he will try to arrange unexpected and "random" meetings. To avoid any suspicion, such meetings will usually take place among friends, colleagues or acquaintances. If a married man falls in love, signs of such behavior will be suppressed by children or wife, so their manifestation can be carefully hidden.
How should a woman behave?
When a woman suddenly in her subconscious clearly pronounces: “A married man fell in love with me”, then immediately a problem arises with how she should behave. The object of sighing has nothing to rejoice in, because most often such love brings only suffering and problems.
Based on statistics, as well as on the life experience of manywomen who have been in a similar situation, it can be affirmatively said that men rarely leave the family. Having satisfied their sexual needs, they return back to where life has already settled down, and therefore it is so comfortable, stable, cozy and warm.
But if, after all, he hasn’t been holding anything in marriage for a long time, if a married man has fallen in love and suffers, then he can actually go away forever to his new lover. If she is single.
How to tell if he is in love?
When a woman meets a man who is married, she usually asks herself the question: “Is a married man in love with me or just using me?”. If he loves, then the seriousness of his intentions will certainly show. If he is not going to build a long and serious relationship, then this can be determined by his behavior.
A married man always tries to avoid talking with his new lover about how they will build their lives together in the future. At the same time, he will also forbid the woman herself to talk about these relationships, which are usually accompanied by a large number of gifts, but there will not be so much attention from him. Usually lovers always have some common dates that they celebrate together, and they usually spend all the holidays together. With a not free person, all this will not happen.
If the question is whether a married man truly fell in love or not, then you should pay attention to how he tries to break off relations with his wife. If this is nothappens, then it is worth leaving such a person, since there is no love. Most often, such relationships can last for a long time, but in the end he will still remain with his family. To justify this behavior, men give the following arguments:
- The wife is sick and he can't leave her in this situation.
- We need to wait until the children grow up.
When they leave the family
When a married man falls in love with another woman, he can leave the family if there are very good reasons for this. Most often, the family is abandoned by those representatives of the stronger sex who have already reached forty years. It is believed that the fortieth birthday for a man is a milestone in which he is going through a crisis and sums up the half of his life that he has already lived. It happens that life does not suit a man at all, and then he decides to change everything around.
When a man decides to change his life, he changes not only his job and appearance, but also his friends and family. They often say about such representatives of the stronger sex: "gray hair in a beard, demon in a rib." Men are owners, and falling in love, they will certainly want to tell the whole world that this woman belongs to them. But for this they must be free. Therefore, if a married man falls in love with another woman, then he will break off relations with his wife.
When a woman finds out that her husband has fallen out of love, she is lost and does not know what to do now. But here it is worth doing the opposite, that is, there is no need to get lost. First of all, it is worth making sure thata married man has fallen in love, signs of which should appear in his behavior. After all, no matter how much a husband tries to hide his feelings for another woman, the wife will still soon feel the changes that are happening to him.
It is known that usually spouses who live together for a long time have perfectly studied each other's behavior, so they immediately notice any changes in the behavior of their soulmate. Moreover, when a spouse feels serious sympathy for another, not only his behavior changes, but also his mood.
If a married man has fallen in love with a married woman, the signs will help determine it. So, already between the spouses there will be no sexual relations. He will always find a reason to just sleep. For example, he may say that tomorrow they can pay attention to each other, or that he is very tired, or his head suddenly starts to hurt.
The sign that a married man has fallen in love with a young woman is the use of a good perfume. Also, unexpectedly, the spouse begins to carefully monitor his appearance: he changes the style of clothing, can go in for sports and even make a fashionable haircut. But still, the main sign of a man's love is the phone, which is constantly with him, as if he is afraid to let it out of his hands.
Sometimes a spouse, realizing that he is to blame for his former beloved, can avoid any contact with her or, on the contrary, tries to surround her with even more care.
You can often see women who begin their messages on the Internet with the words: “A married man fell in love with me, but I don’tknow what to do." But an even more incomprehensible situation is the wife who is being deceived and she does not know what to do now: to remain silent and reconcile, pretending that nothing is happening, or still destroy the family and divorce the unfaithful.
It is desirable that the spouses can calmly talk to each other and find out what they both want. According to psychology, it is not difficult to understand that a married man has fallen in love with a married woman, it is more difficult to understand why he needs it. Indeed, most often this is only a fleeting hobby, since he received insufficient attention from his wife during this period. If, nevertheless, this is a real feeling, then you should decide how the spouses will continue to live. Maybe it would be better for them to separate after all.
Romance at work
Office romances are common in modern life. It often happens at work that a married man falls in love with a married woman, because it is with her, as with a colleague, that he spends a lot of time. A beautiful person can immediately guess that a representative of the stronger sex has fallen in love with her in many ways. For example, he might bring her coffee, accidentally touch her, or even offer her a ride home.
Such an affair with a colleague is also convenient because everything looks decent for everyone. The wife will see her husband, who calmly comes home from work on time, and there will be no hint that someone else is interested in him. Of course, there are some "symptoms" by which it can be determined that a married man has fallen in love with a married woman, the signs in this case will be moredisguised. But an attentive wife will be able to solve them.
Office romances have their bonuses:
- Intrigues with colleagues at work make a man always be in good shape.
- Such a representative of the stronger sex will take care of his appearance.
- If a man has an affair with his boss, then there is a career prospect.
- Romance at work allows the lover to spend a lot of time with the woman he likes. This allows him to know everything about her.
- It is known that the common always brings together.
- A man who wants to show his love, but can't do it, gets emotional to the limit.
The only disadvantage of such relationships at work is that when love passes, it is already more difficult to build relationships with such a woman at work. It may even lead to hatred.
If the woman is married
It also happens that when both partners are not free, feelings can suddenly flare up between them too. Explaining why a married man falls in love with another woman who is also married can be difficult. Most often, such relationships are accompanied by correspondence on the Internet. They will rarely meet, and there will not be many gifts, as it is not safe.
It is known that a married man and a married woman are well aware that their relationship will not last long, so they carefully hide their feelings. There is an opinion that a married man still prefers a relationship with a married lady, since she always knows whatwants, and will not demand much from him. The main reason why a married woman needs such a relationship lies in her fatigue from constant life, which deprives her of joy in life. In addition, such relationships on the side help her diversify her sex life a little.
Such a woman will not require constant attention from a man and will even calmly react to the fact that he will be late for a meeting or not come at all. She will never make a scandal, and she does not need gifts.
Types of non-free representatives of the strong half
Can a married man fall in love with another woman? In the modern world, this question has long been answered in the affirmative, as morals have changed a little and become more liberated. From how a man who is in an official marriage will behave with a woman to whom he has feelings, you can determine what type of man he belongs to. Today, there are three types of behavior men have with women they fall in love with out of wedlock:
- Good family man.
Let's take a closer look at each one. So, the man is a "Good family man." For a long time he will try to drown out his feelings for another woman. Often such men are very cautious. Their behavior in public places seems just perfect for a married man. Also carefully and carefully, he will treat the feelings of a woman if she reciprocates. But to leave the family, most likely, he will notcan never.
To understand that a married man of this type will never leave the family, you need to look at his behavior. The main features will be the following:
- The man forbids him to call and send messages to the phone.
- If he answers the call, he speaks in a whisper, often hangs up.
- Trying not to talk about plans for the future.
- Very attached to his children.
- Easily agrees to everything, but takes no action.
- Forbids a woman to talk about herself or their relationship to her friends and relatives.
- Does not accept gifts.
- When meeting, most often deceives and behaves nervously.
If the first type of unfaithful men seems just perfect, then a man - a "complainer" will constantly complain about his wife, who annoys him greatly. But such men will soon begin to get annoyed with their new lover and criticize all her habits and behavior. Usually, the wives themselves are happy to divorce such men, having endured them even for more than twenty years. Moreover, parting will not be easy, but, most likely, will be accompanied by a scandal.
A woman should not build her relationship with a man whose behavior is characterized by the following features:
- A sharp reaction to any misses by a woman.
- If a woman says that she lacks care and attention from him, he will try to give her something to get away from this unpleasant conversation.
- A mistress for such a man becomesproperty.
- He always easily makes promises that he will divorce his wife, but does not keep them.
- Constantly compares with his wife.
- Most often he does not care about his children and even considers them a hindrance and a burden.
Relations with the Casanova man will develop quickly and rapidly. He is not shy about anything, he tries to approach the woman in such a way that sexual relations arise between them faster. He is not afraid to court his mistress in public places. It is easiest to persuade him to leave the family, but a new marriage for such a man usually does not last long, as he will soon start a new romance. It is simply impossible to tame such a man, as he will always look for entertainment on the side.
Main reasons for cheating
Women often wonder if a married man can fall in love with another. Usually a man in love behaves just like a boy and, trying to find entertainment on the side, forgets about his wife. If this happens, then this may be one of these reasons:
- Sexual dissatisfaction.
- Tired of everyday life and constancy. A man wants to get new emotions, impressions and change everyday life a little.
- If the wife does not understand her husband.
- Real sympathy for another woman.
- New thrills needed.
- The new lady of the heart boosts his self-esteem.
Therefore, a wife who wants to save her marriage should understand what caused her husband's betrayal, and then tryeliminate all these shortcomings.
How to build a relationship with a not free person?
Once a married man falls in love with a married woman, the relationship becomes a secret. But if the object of love of the representative of the stronger sex is free, then the person must competently and correctly build her relationship with him in order to become no longer a mistress, but a wife in the future.
First of all, such a woman should not pretend that she enjoys a relationship with a married man, if it doesn't. It is worth enjoying the relationship that has arisen, then they will be so sincere that not a single man can resist it. After all, the man is already on the verge. So, his wife puts pressure on him, he feels his guilt before her and the children, and the public also condemns him.
Own conscience haunts a man, that's why he so keenly feels and reacts to the coldness and insincerity of the woman he fell in love with. If he feels such an attitude towards himself, then he will refuse such a sudden love for another woman. It is known that a married man needs a mistress to get positive emotions, but he usually has enough unpleasant emotions and situations in a family with his wife.
It is wrong if a mistress complains to such a man about problems in her family, about her hardships and difficulties. After all, this man who is married already has a woman who does not cope with her tasks and also constantly complains to him and talks about problems. ToIn addition, a married man will always have more compassion for his wife than for his mistress, since she is closer to him, dearer.
A married man should never throw tantrums, scandals, make demands and whims. It is not necessary to perform any manipulations so that this man helps to improve his financial situation. A mistress can only require one thing from a married man - it is always to be together. But even this demand must be made gently and unobtrusively. In such relationships, the leader must always be a man, and a woman must agree with him if she wants to maintain and continue this relationship.
Sometimes some mistresses try to get the attention of their wife by sending messages on the phone, on social networks to a man. Frequent calls can also attract the attention of a spouse. But not always such attention of a wife can benefit his mistress, and not always a man leaves his wife, but more often breaks up with such an obsessive woman who gives him so much trouble and inconvenience.
A man loves to be admired. Therefore, he should say good words more often. Sometimes a man has not heard them from his wife for a long time, who only criticizes, so such actions of her mistress will not only please him, but may also push for some decisive steps.
But women themselves, entering into a relationship with a married man, must fully realize and understand whether they need such a relationship. After all, it is only at the beginning that they seem romantic and emotional. But over time, when you want a man to stay for the night, he will most oftenrush to the family. Holidays and weekends will have to be spent alone, as he will be with his family at this time.
Worth considering when entering into a relationship with a married man, what lies ahead for you. After all, most often his parents and relatives will be on the side of the first wife, so you should not expect good relations with them. This war with parents may also affect the children who will be born. By the way, the influence and dissatisfaction of parents and other relatives may eventually affect the attitude of a man to his new chosen one.
If a man leaves the family, then the abandoned wife cannot always come to terms with this. And then they start their war. Constant conflicts and skirmishes can negatively affect the mental state of all participants in such a story, but children are especially affected by this.
Not always a man, leaving his wife and children, goes to his mistress. Most often, he tries to find another woman and forget about what happened in his life before.