2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21
Have you ever been sexually aroused by a smart but not particularly handsome person in your life? If yes, then you are a potential sapiosexual. This is a fairly common occurrence these days. For sapiosexuals, the most exciting organ is the brain. They get much more pleasure from highly intellectual conversations than from sex. It is enough for sapiosexuals to contemplate the "radiance of the pure mind" of their partner, to observe the work of his mind. At the same time, appearance does not play a special role.
What does "sapiosexual" mean?
The term "sapiosexual" appeared in the second half of the 20th century. It was introduced into use by Marianne Evelyn Faithfull, the famous British pop singer and actress. This intelligent, highly educated woman is a maternal descendant of the Habsburg dynasty. She attended an all-girls Catholic school as a child.
It is noteworthy that her great-uncle is the writer Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. In his works, there is often an image of a despotic woman who mocks a weak man. So common that the psychologist Richard von Krafft-Ebing named the corresponding sexual pathology"masochism", as if hinting that the writer himself suffered from this disorder.
But back to the term "sapiosexual". The meaning of this word can be determined by the translation of the two bases of which it consists. This is sapio - "to be reasonable"; sexus - "gender". That is, a sapiosexual is a person who is sexually attracted to an intellectually developed partner.
Freudian reasons for sapiosexuality
Sigmund Freud believed that sapiosexuality is born at the phallic stage of the formation of psychosexuality in a child. At this stage, parents are ideal for children. For girls, the father is the strongest and smartest of all men, and for boys, the mother becomes a model of beauty, virtue and prudence. At this time, love for parents of the opposite sex is born. When children become adults, boys subconsciously look for a life partner that resembles a mother, and girls look for a father.
According to Freud, the phenomenon of sapiosexuality is far from harmless. If parents misbehave in such a situation: they manipulate the feelings of children, try to bind them even more to themselves - this can have an extremely negative impact on the child's personal life in the future. Boys can develop a persistent Oedipus complex, and girls will suffer from the Electra syndrome that has formed.
Sapiosexuality in modern psychology
No one is going to belittle the merits of old Freud, but everyone knows about his ability to dramatize. Modern psychology refers to the phenomenon of sapiosexuality moreloyally. Psychologists believe that sexual attraction to intellectually developed people is a completely natural phenomenon.
Sapiosexual is the next step in the development of mankind. After all, the further the scientific and technological revolution advances, the more difficult life is for people with mediocre mental abilities. Thus, psychologists identify two main factors that justify the spread of sapiosexuality.
The biological factor of sapiosexuality
“You need to work not for 12 hours, but with your head,” said the legendary Steve Jobs. And in this he is certainly right. As practice shows, hard physical labor rarely brings we alth, while with the help of extraordinary mental abilities you can secure a comfortable future.
The modern sapiosexual girl prefers smart men because she is subconsciously looking for a worthy candidate to be the father of her children. A modern male does not need to have developed muscles in order to fill up a mammoth. It's more important to be smart enough to provide for your family.
Psychological factor of sapiosexuality
Women by their nature are looking for a prince on a white horse. And, as you know, the reserves of princes in the world are limited, and everyone you meet cannot be of royal blood. Previously, the main characteristic of the prince was beauty, as men did not pay much attention to their appearance. Today, almost every representative of the stronger sex is stylishly dressed, has a fashionable hairstyle, a neatly trimmed beard, and well-developed muscles. Wellwhy not a prince? However, this is not enough for modern girls. Now give them a high level of IQ, not an iron abs and immense biceps.
The guys are also not far behind. A beautiful, well-groomed girl is now far from uncommon. In addition, plastic surgery works wonders, and now every woman has the opportunity to correct her appearance. Guys are no longer interested in beautiful pacifiers. They need something to talk about with the girl, so that it would be interesting with her.
Where did the fashion for "nerds" come from
Every year there are more and more people who consider intelligence the sexiest trait. But this does not mean that sapiosexuals did not exist before. Not the last role in this was played by literature and television.
Sapiosexual - who is this? This is a girl who is crazy about Sherlock Holmes, who has neither a beautiful body, nor a courageous appearance, nor a kind character, but has a powerful intellect. When he brilliantly solves crimes with his deductive method, it seems that there is no sexier man in the whole world.
Even in the USSR, where sex didn't seem to exist, the image of a nondescript but smart bespectacled man excited the imagination of Soviet women. Remember Shurik from Leonid Gaidai's immortal comedies "Operation Y", "Prisoner of the Caucasus" and "Ivan Vasilyevich Changes Profession".
Sapiosexuals in modern society
Today sapiosexualityin demand like never before. If twenty years ago, girls wanted to marry oligarchs, now they are more attracted to programmers. Being smart is now more profitable than just being rich. A person who understands innovative technologies or investments will easily succeed in the modern world. At the same time, a rich heir, mindlessly managing capital, can easily lose his entire inheritance and end up with nothing.
Today, ultra-sapiosexual is not a pathology, but a natural step in the development of mankind. Guys and girls tend to connect their lives with a smart partner. For them, not physical closeness is much more important, but the opportunity to have interesting conversations, exchange information, and constantly learn something new.
Sapiosexuality in The Big Bang Theory
The American television series, loved by millions around the world, clearly demonstrated that a person with a not very pleasant character, a very ordinary appearance and a huge set of eccentricities can arouse sympathy solely due to his developed intellect. These are the main characters of the series - Sheldon Cooper and Leonard Hovsteder. When watching the first episodes, these guys are usually annoying and seem funny. But very soon you feel sympathy for them and begin to understand the heroines of the series, who fall in love with unprepossessing "nerds" without memory.
The sitcom gives an exhaustive answer to the question: "who is a sapiosexual?". One has only to remember what a disappointment for millions of fans"Theory" turned out to be the revelation of actor James Parsons, who played the role of Sheldon, that he is an adherent of non-traditional sexual orientation. This case can be regarded as a kind of scientific experiment, the results of which made it clear that sapiosexuality is inherent in a huge number of girls from all over the world.
