How to be better than your ex and win him over?

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

The times when young and innocent people were wooed by their parents are long gone. We are not in a hurry to get married, but we may have more than one relationship with the opposite sex before marriage. On this occasion, a logical question arises: how to be better than the former?

I want a man in a relationship with you to think only about you, and not about his previous relationship and their main participant. What does it mean to "be the best" and is it worth pursuing this in order to be happy in a relationship? Let's talk about it in this post.

Perfect is the enemy of good

As sad as it is to say, we often strive to be the best at everything. Why "regrettable"? Because desire is in many ways unnatural. Perhaps our upbringing is to blame - very often parents from childhood inspire their kids that either they are already the best, or they should be.

But remember that being the best is not the same as being happy. The concept of "the most beautiful" or "the smartest" is very conditional, and in order to get such a label, a girl can sacrifice a lot, and in particular herself and her individuality.

How to be better than others? And who exactly is better? And in what? You wantto be prettier than Masha from the neighboring yard, better to cook than neighbor Katya, and joke funnier than her friend Marina? Even if there were some yardstick to quantify your every asset, trust that you are amazing and unique the way you are. Be yourself - that's the main condition for being the best!

But this, of course, does not mean that you should not strive for anything. If you realize that you need to improve your body and exercise or read more to be more educated, then do it. But remember that it makes sense for your development, and not for being more attractive to some young person.

How to be a better ex and win him over?

There is nothing seditious about fighting for the man you like and conquering him. The times when ladies dutifully waited for their prince at the window are over. Now the girls "go" first and win. But is there any pleasure in "fighting" for a man? Will it not turn out that the conquered will not belong entirely to you, but will rather feel like a prisoner of your bonds of love?

We'll look at ways to improve (as much as possible) below, but with a caveat, in which case your efforts may be in vain.

Past relationships that interfere with your present

Let's say you love yourself for who you are, and therefore do not strive for unnecessary improvement. You met a worthy young man andentered into a relationship. And … you feel that past relationships are persistently interfering in your life. The young man every now and then remembers his ex-passion with a kind word, and you get only one criticism. Inadvertently, the thought arises: how to be better than the former? Let's figure out how to do this and whether it is necessary to strive for this at all.

Should I learn to cook?

You make good money and think it's already good that you can open yogurt or cut sausage on your own. If the joke that the hostess was the best at mayonnaise is about you, then the young man’s disgruntled comments that the ex-girlfriend’s borscht was simply delicious, and it would be nice for you to take an example from her, are not without foundation. The answer to the question: "How to become better than his ex?" has an unequivocal answer: "Learn to cook!" Girls are born to be feminine, beautiful and magnificent homemakers. Men are pleased that women are building a career and working, but this does not relieve the ladies of the responsibility to feed their household.

So if you really want to be better in this particular case, take some free workshops from a friend, mom or grandmother. If you understand that this is not for you, then the relationship, most likely, will not work out - what kind of girl will tolerate constant comparisons with her ex not in her favor?

Be prettier (leaner, fitter)?

Your relationship seems to be all right. But from time to time, the beloved looks at the photo of the ex-passion with a sad sigh, and then displeasedlylooks at you. This is where you need to figure it out.

How to be better than your ex? Is it necessary? Let's say your appearance is not perfect even in your opinion - a few extra pounds, lack of fine taste in clothes or an upturned nose. But did you know that a loving look turns flaws into cute highlights for your beloved?

If a young man is in love with you and offers to do fitness with him so that you become he althier and more beautiful, that's one thing. It's not bad if he invites you to try on some new clothes and takes you shopping. If a loved one offers you to go to the gym for the reason that you do not meet his ideal, then things are bad. When you get the figure of his dreams (mind you, not yours), it turns out that you could do with a rhinoplasty, hair extensions or something else.

How to be? You can become better than others only for a short period of time, until someone more interesting appears on the horizon of your chosen one's attention. And then they will set a new goal for you - learn a language, attend yoga courses or insert implants in the ass. You will be stubbornly molded into a Galatea, which, nevertheless, cannot have its own opinion or desires.

How to be a good lover?

Sexual life is also no longer something shameful and very delicate. Partners can and should talk to each other about their desires, preferences, fantasies. This contributes to your rapprochement and comfortable pastime. But agree, the differenceis huge - either they offer you to be more relaxed, or they compare (not in your favor) with an ex-girlfriend.

How to be a good lover? The answer is universal - be as relaxed as possible, follow your desires, do not do what seems unnatural or unpleasant to you. Throw away advice like “think about a partner” - when you think about someone, you become enslaved, you start to follow the process too much.

But be careful with comparisons. If someone else is present in your bed with the chosen one, then the situation may not change. Love yourself and respect! No matter how good a young man is, know that you deserve to be the one anyway!

Develop intelligence

It's very unpleasant if a man reproaches you for being stupid. Well, of course, because he defended more than one dissertation and was nominated for the Nobel Prize last year, so everything fits! Not? So why does this young man allow himself to reproach you for something? Is he smart in all areas of knowledge? You may not know any laws of physics or are not strong in geography, but, you see, there is something in which you are an ace! For example, you know all the actors of our time, know how to cook or love to read. There are no people who would know everything. Any successful scientist has become such only because he completely devoted himself to studying a topic that interests him, abstracting from everything else.

Therefore, if you are reproached for being stupid compared to an ex-girlfriend, then this dilemma is insoluble. How to be better than your exsuch a situation? No way. No matter how much you read, you will not become smart enough in his eyes.

Real Rivalry

What if a man's attention is directed not to the past, but to the present? If now someone else is fighting for the attention of your chosen one? How to be a better opponent? Remember that there are qualities that cannot be compared quantitatively. Why do we like this particular person? because he is the best or because he has something special for us? The fact is that you can surpass your rival in all respects, be more beautiful, smarter, wittier, but a man will still not fall in love with you. Believe that in this case the struggle is inappropriate. It means that there is someone else for you, and you just haven't met him yet. However, the meeting will be, it is inevitable!

Another component of success

Many fairly beautiful, educated girls are unhappy in their personal lives. Surely you have more than one friend who is both smart and beautiful, but lonely. Why so? Perhaps the answer lies in the following - this girl is not confident in herself and does not love herself.

Remember that people who are in demand by the opposite sex are madly in love, and not with anyone, but with themselves. This is not about sick pride, but about he althy egoism. Only if you value yourself, if you take care of yourself and do not offend others, you will be lucky in a relationship. A woman who loves herself will be loved by a man, and former or current rivals will have no chance.

Andfinally

You got a secret weapon, the answer to the question of how to be a better ex. Part of the answer is that you are already better, that you are the best, unique and unusual. If your chosen one now and then looks back and makes comparisons that are not in your favor, then perhaps that relationship simply has not ended yet.

Meanwhile, each of us must develop and improve - not for someone else, but for ourselves. Therefore, do what pleases you. Take a fitness class, take a cooking class, build a career, or just enjoy life.