Many parents face the situation when a child does not want to go to kindergarten. If this happens at the very beginning, you can understand - for some children, the adaptation period takes up to several weeks. But what if time passes, but your child still has no desire to go to kindergarten?
First of all, it is worth understanding why the child does not want to go to kindergarten. The simplest and most obvious reason is the unwillingness of the baby to get used to the change of scenery and daily routine. In particular, this applies to those children who are sent to kindergarten at the age of 4-5 years, when they are already thoroughly accustomed to home conditions. In addition, you need to understand that the daily routine in kindergarten is built taking into account the average norm for a particular age. In this case, the individual characteristics of babies are almost not taken into account. To avoid such problems, experts recommend gradually transferring children to a regime close to kindergarten, in about a month. So that the transition to a new routine does not become stressful for your child, you need to do it carefully, shifting everyday activities by 10-15 minutesdaily.
This advice applies to nutrition as well. As practice shows, quite often a child does not want to go to kindergarten precisely because the local food seems to him tasteless, unusual. It is better to find out in advance what your baby will be fed in the kindergarten, and introduce some dishes into his daily diet.
Most of the problems tend to be caused by "quiet time". Again, this is best done at home. It is necessary to accustom the child to the fact that after the morning games he needs a couple of hours to take a nap. At the same time, you should not go to bed with him, and all unnecessary touching should also be excluded - it is unlikely that the educators will stroke each child in the group on the back. Many experienced mothers advise putting the baby together with their favorite toy - a teddy bear or another, which you can then take with you to kindergarten. In an unfamiliar environment, this familiar item will calm the baby and help him fall asleep.
A child entering kindergarten is always a test for him. Leaving a cozy home environment, for the first time he contacts the outside world, his peers and strangers older people. Naturally, on this basis, the first conflicts arise, for which it should also be prepared. Very often, children are capricious and try to do everything possible not to go to kindergarten when they fail to make friends there. As a rule, children fall into already formed groups, where everyone else knows each other well. For a while, your child will most likely notto accept in general games, they will not share with him and so on. The situation is further exacerbated in cases where the child does not speak as well as the others. Your task is to help him. For example, you can find out which of the classmates he would like to make friends with, and try to bring the children closer: give them an idea for a game together, etc. You can chat with other parents, agree to take a walk together or go, say, to the circus. In such an environment, children will find a common language much faster.
One more thing to know. As a rule, both educators and other children treat with extreme disapproval those students who do not have elementary self-care skills: they cannot go to the potty, get dressed, and eat on their own. Best of all, if you teach your child to do all this - then there will be much less unpleasant conflict situations with educators and ridicule from peers.
It also happens that a child does not want to go to kindergarten because of the incorrect behavior of teachers. It is unlikely that the baby himself will tell you about everything that happens to him during your absence. However, it is very easy to notice something wrong. If you hear from a child that the teacher is bad, he begins to be afraid of female fairy-tale characters - most likely, these thoughts have an underlying reason. It's a difficult relationship with caregivers. You should go to the kindergarten and talk to them, find out what's wrong. In no case should you attack teachers with accusations and threats. Show that you are willing to cooperate and help them find an understanding with yourchild. However, if the situation does not improve in a few weeks, it is worth thinking about changing the educational institution.
And a few more tips for those who want to prepare their child for kindergarten. Firstly, you can’t scare the baby with a kindergarten - otherwise it will never be able to become a safe and favorite place for a child. You should not discuss the educators and everything that surrounds the baby in kindergarten, with him - it is likely that he will get the impression that he is surrounded by evil, bad people. If your baby cries every time you leave, there is no need to scold him and punish him for it - it is better to gently remind you that you will return for him. But you can’t deceive the baby either: if you leave him for the whole day or even half a day, you don’t need to say that you will come very soon - so the baby will stop trusting you.
Keep calm and always talk positively about kindergarten. Let this feeling be passed on to the child. Only then can he feel comfortable there.