How to get a girl to kiss you if you are shy and insecure

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How to get a girl to kiss you if you are shy and insecure
How to get a girl to kiss you if you are shy and insecure

Sometimes relationships with the opposite sex cause only frustration, disappointment and unwillingness to continue. And if one or even both partners do not differ in experience, then there is a great chance that someone will ruin everything. Here we will try to figure out how to make a girl kiss you if she has never kissed you, and make it so that everyone is happy.

First steps

First you need to make sure that you communicate as a man and a woman and she does not consider you solely as a friend, colleague and the like. Before you get a girl to kiss you on the lips, you need to set the right tone of communication (male-female).

conversation at the table
conversation at the table

Unequivocally let her know that you are not going to be friends with her, as soon as possible, preferably at the first contact with her.

There is an opinion that before the first kiss there should be several dates, you should go to a romantic dinner, that you should not rush things and the like. In fact, the longer you delaymoment, the more you complicate your task and the sooner she will make friends with you, and for more intimate activities she will find someone else.

Time and comfort

Of course, before getting a girl to kiss you, she needs to be at least a little comfortable just being around you, and time is one of the best tools for creating that comfort.

clock and woman
clock and woman

But contrary to the beliefs of some representatives of both sexes in this regard, it is not necessary to wait days and weeks for that very moment. On average, just a couple of hours spent together is enough before the first kiss, and sometimes it’s even a matter of a few minutes.

Environmental Impact

Also, the number of places that you have visited together is a serious help in creating comfort. The fact is that the more time you spend with her in different places, the more calmly she perceives your presence.

It works like this: when familiar places are replaced by unfamiliar ones, she unconsciously starts looking for something familiar to her. You in this situation will be the only thing she knows in a completely new environment.

So with every new park, alleyway, or cute little yard you visit together, so does her trust in you.

Here we come to the point that it makes sense to plan in advance the places you will visit, and with this in mind, set the time and place of the meeting. It is very convenient when the end point of all these pre-planned places is yours.apartment with a prearranged pretext to go into it together. Of course, she does not need to know about all these plans.

Stairway of Consent

Both kissing and sex are certain steps of a certain ladder of consent. And if the step with kisses is located somewhere in the middle of the path, then sex is at the end of all steps. It is worth climbing this ladder smoothly and in small steps. No, not slowly, but gradually.

girl on the stairs
girl on the stairs

This means that before you force a girl to kiss you, you should perform a certain series of actions. We have already de alt with some of these actions: you need to set the tone for a man-woman, establish contact with a girl by visiting various places together (the more the better), and let time work its magic without taking a wait-and-see attitude. The next step follows.

Physical contact

The step of this is correct physical contact. The moment a guy forces a girl to kiss him usually comes when she takes his hugs, holds his hand without thinking, and can calmly rest her head on his shoulder.

All this should happen gradually, for a start you just need to touch it. To do this, it is enough just to take her by the hand at a meeting. It's like you're about to shake hands, but instead you just pick her up and hold her for a few seconds while looking straight into her eyes. You can say something at this point if you feel weird.

normal handshake
normal handshake

There is a more brazen trick: instead of holding her hand, just take it and spin it 360 degrees, as if in a dance. All this will allow you to immediately set the tone and establish physical contact.

rotation in dance
rotation in dance

Of course, you should not do the above with a serious mine. A cheeky smirk on your face is best suited for this situation. The main thing is not to forget that the number of touches and their duration must increase over time in order to lead to a kiss further.

What not to do

Further on, it will be useful to understand that you don’t need to try to force a girl to kiss you with words, as well as insist on it if she has already refused you, because you will only make it worse. Instead, just try to kiss her yourself in five or ten minutes.

Don't pressure her, don't even hint at a kiss. And if she has never kissed, how do you get a girl to kiss you first? There is one way where even though the initiative is yours, she will technically kiss you first.

Eighty by twenty

When enough time has passed (a couple of hours on average), you are already in a calm, pleasant and secluded place where she will be much more comfortable kissing you than in a crowded shopping center, and you both have a good time time with each other, and normal physical contact was established at the very beginning of the meeting and developed with its course, then it would not be difficult to arrange a kiss. Here's what to do:

  1. You need to get as close to her as possible. A small park bench is perfect for this.
  2. Look into her eyes for a few seconds, then look at her lips, then back into her eyes.
  3. Next, smile and slowly, but not too slowly, move towards her, clearly letting her know what is about to happen.
  4. When your lips are eighty percent of the way to hers, calmly stop, trying to contain this excitement, and let her do the other twenty percent for you. In that case, she will technically kiss you first.

If you did everything right and did not ruin the steps that go before the kiss, then there should not be any resistance from her side, everything will go smoothly and naturally.