Marriage of a Muslim and a Christian woman - features, consequences and recommendations

2024 Author: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 00:21

Acquaintance, flirting, love, family - all couples in love try to adhere to such a scenario. But often prejudices, such as a different nationality or religion of one of the spouses, interfere with marriage. Is it really possible for a Muslim to marry a Christian? Or is it a taboo that has been imposed on us for many centuries? We will try to understand for certain the possibility of concluding an alliance between people belonging to different faiths, and, using an example, consider what can prevent them from being legally married.

Differences and disagreements in religion

One of the first and most important obstacles to marital happiness in marriage with a Muslim can be differences in religion, since Islam and Christianity, despite some of their similarities, still sometimes preach opposite things, for example:

1. Christians are supposed tohave one spouse. A Muslim can marry 4 wives at the same time.
2. Christianity forbids beating a wife for disobedience, Islam advises: hit them for wrongdoing.
3. Christianity preaches the equality of men and women before God. Islam, on the contrary, believes that a woman is an inferior being compared to a man.
4. Christianity teaches to be patient with other religions, while Islam preaches the fight against the Gentiles. "When you meet those who disbelieved, then - a blow with a sword on the neck" (47.4). “Fight the infidels and hypocrites. Be cruel to them!" (9.73).

This is only a small part of the differences between the two world faiths. But they, in turn, can turn the marriage of a Muslim with a Christian or Jew into a living hell if the husband strictly adheres to the Holy Scripture (Quran). In such a marriage, the husband will constantly humiliate and beat his wife for the slightest mistake.

Love and marriage are not the same

Yes, all ages and religions are submissive to love. Although for a Muslim and a Christian, marriage and love are sometimes incompatible concepts. And if Christianity encourages strong marriages and rejects causeless divorces between married and unmarried spouses, then in Islam they are more loyal to divorce, for example, a husband can give his wife a divorce just like that, for example, for the slightest offense or if he is tired of her. But even in the event that Christians nevertheless decide to divorce, it will not be easy to do this, it will be necessary to go through a long series of conversations with the spiritualmentor and prove to the church that divorce is not a whim, but a necessity. A Muslim can say certain words to his wife, after which they are considered divorced.

Of course, you can take a chance, but what if you get lucky … Well, what if you get unlucky, and at best, a woman will have to meekly endure polygamy of her husband, and at worst - to remain in an unfamiliar country without a livelihood.

Head of the family

It is worth noting that the leading role in the marriage of a Muslim and a Christian woman is always given to her husband. And it makes no difference whether the wife has a rich dowry or not. Immediately after the wedding, the wife comes under the guardianship of her husband, who decides everything for her. She has no right not only to work without her husband's permission, but even to visit her relatives and friends. By the way, all questions about the improvement of housing, up to the choice of decor, furniture and utensils, will also be decided by the husband. And if before the wedding you visited beauty salons and wore fashionable clothes, forget about it. Now you will wear what your husband chooses and look the way he wants.

Religious customs as an occasion for reflection

Each religion has its own customs, which sometimes have some indulgences, but it is not customary to violate Muslim customs under any pretext, for example:

• It is forbidden to marry non-Christians.
• You can not make decisions without the consent of the groom's parents.
• It is forbidden to plan the number of children.
• Womanit is forbidden to go anywhere without the permission of the husband or his relatives.
• Wife is forbidden to communicate with other men.
• It is not permissible for a woman to bare her head, arms and legs in the presence of other men.

The list can be very long. Violation of each of these points can lead to an unplanned divorce. Therefore, before looking for an answer to the question of whether marriage with a Muslim is possible for great love, think about it, but do you need it? Do you need a marriage where there are no guarantees, where a woman has no rights but only obligations, where a woman is treated like a thing that can be easily replaced with another? If at least one of the points seemed wild and unacceptable to you, then you should think about the appropriateness of such a relationship.

Features of meeting the parents of the bride and groom

If, despite all the warnings, you thought that a marriage of great love with a Muslim is possible, then do not rush to legitimize your relationship. Trust me, it won't be easy. To begin with, his relatives must allow your man to marry you, and this is very often an impossible task for a number of reasons.

1. They already have a Muslim girl from a good family in mind, more often a relative.
2. You have different religions, and marrying an "infidel" is a great sin.
3. You have different views on the family, life, etc. You will have to live in a large family, with parents, brothers and sisters and a bunch of your husband's nephews. Doesn't this arrangement suit you? Here are themalso, they don't want to take their son away from his family for the sake of marrying an "infidel".

And even if the groom persuades his parents to agree to marry a Christian, then in this case you will at least have to change your religion.

Changing religion as a way out

Well, the hardest part is over, and you were allowed to get married, but that's not all. In order to be legally married according to all the canons of Islam, the bride and groom must be of the same faith. That is, you will definitely have to change your Orthodoxy. By the way, this is very easy to do. It is enough to repeat this quote from the Koran after the spiritual person, and you are already a Muslim: "Ashkhadu an la il'yaha `illa Ll'ahu wa 'ashkhadu 'anna Muh'ammadan ra`sulu Allah."

But for those who are interested in the answer to the question of whether it is possible to live in a marriage with a Muslim, while remaining a Christian, there is no definite answer. After all, if you follow the traditions, then not a single clergyman will conduct a marriage ceremony between persons of different faiths. If it is decided not to perform this ceremony, which is unlikely (the groom's parents will not allow it), then you can not change your religion.

Muslim and Christian wedding ceremonies

Wedding ceremonies of representatives of the two world religions are not very different from each other, however, there are some nuances here. For example:

1. In the Christian wedding ceremony, the main place is taken by the wedding in the church, then there is registration in the registry office, and only after that comes the time of the weddingbanquet.
2. Muslims first arrange a banquet, where all the numerous relatives of the bride and groom, as well as neighbors, colleagues and even just acquaintances take part. Then, after the banquet, the spiritual person conducts the rite "nikah" (wedding). But registration in the registry office may be completely absent.

If you are satisfied with such a "marriage" without a stamp in your passport and guarantees, then go for it.

Registry office or nikah?

Behind all the difficulties and misunderstandings due to religious differences. Parents met and approved of your choice. The only thing left is to choose how you will legitimize your relationship: will you have registration in the registry office or will you have nicknames (Muslim wedding), or maybe both. Many people wonder if marriage between a Muslim and a Christian is valid? It is impossible to give a definite answer here. Yes, it is valid if it was registered in the registry office or if the bride converted to Islam and the nikah ceremony was performed. If there is no registration or nikah was performed without changing religion, then in this case such a marriage is considered invalid.

Religion is not a hindrance to love

Despite the large number of differences both from a national and religious point of view, it happens that the marriage of a Muslim and a Christian can become not only happy, but also a role model. This will primarily be the merit of the spouses. After all, if you discard all prejudices and look at things soberly, it will becomeone thing is clear, that both people worship the same God, although each in his own way.

In today's world, and at all, many reject traditions, remaining only in words "Muslims" or "Christians". In fact, everything is completely different: the younger generation not only does not go to religious institutions (mosque, church), but also does not observe traditions, as prescribed by their religions. And only by national predisposition do they attribute themselves to one or another faith. Maybe this is for the best … In this case, there will be no religious differences in this union, and two loving hearts will not only not look for a reason for quarrels, but will also be more tolerant of each other, and this, in turn, will become a guarantee strong family happiness.